Is it taboo to call children when they are with their other parent? My son is spending his first whole week with dad for the holidays. Usually it's only a night. I don't want to go without calling but every time I read posts about mums doing so they get shunned.
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I call. But not like 10 times a day lol, I let my child actually spend some time alone with the other parent but I will call to say a quick hello I love and miss you :)
Talk to him and arrange a time. Id say a call a day is ok. More if he needs it, but also remember it may upset him more and also interrupts whatevers happening at theirs. Its unfair, but when it's less upsetting then its easier. Definitely keep it short and positive and all about dads and having fun, not yours or coming home.
Text before ringing and be prepared that it might not be a convenient time. Some kids love Phone calls and some kids become upset and disrupted by phone calls.
No more than once a day.
Don’t be the parent that sounds upset, lonely or like you can’t cope without the child. Keep the phone call happy and upbeat.
If my kids are away for a week I'll call once maybe twice. I don't do it everyday because they are spending time with their dad.
My ex and I always text first to make sure it's convienent or to arrange a time when it is.
Sometimes my kids will talk other times they won't.
I've also let my kids know that they can call me whenever they want to and when they are with me they can call their dad too. At times my eldest has got out of bed at 9 and wanted to call dad because he was upset, no problem - if dad's free he'll chat.
I’m not separated but i feel like I would want a call at bedtime or just before.. so I’d probably arrange that to happen.
Even when my partner is away now, we call Dad when we jump into bed for our bedtime book just to say goodnight and tell him about our day ect so I feel like if it was a situation where we were separated, we would both probably want to do the same. And I think our kids would definitely most certainly appreciate getting to say goodnight to the other parent every night...
and I would never think a mother any less for wanting to call her children frequently when they go periods without seeing them
So sad that people get put down for ringing their own kids. I always do when they are with my ex and vice versa. As if you can go a week without talking to your child. Forget what everyone thinks and do what you want.
I’m in the exact same position. Kids are about to spend their first week and I’m stressed out. Their dad does not call during the week so I don’t think I can call my kids. They are both under 5 and the eldest is not coping (I’m trying to get him a councillor) so I don’t think he would cope if I called. I think he would just want to come home and the ex would be angry. I hope you figure out what you can do. Maybe just ask the ex if he’s ok with it? I’m going to try to be very busy next week. Good luck and take care of you.