He doesn’t listen, for months I’ve been telling my husband what’s upsetting/making me angry within our relationship and it goes through one ear and out the other.
I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant with #2 and a SAHM for our 2 and a half year old, so usually I don’t expect much of my husband at all, as I get most of things done.
Yet the days I’m struggling, because I’m exhausted or mentally not coping, he knows I make it clear I’m having a shit day.
He doesn’t help whatsoever, even tho I’m constantly asking if I’m having a shit day can you just help a little bit more, it’s like because I’m doing nothing, then he can do nothing .
(He does work) but I’m just talking about things like cleaning up the toys when our daughters in bed, do dishes ect.
Most of the time I’m fine, so it doesn’t bother me and yes he does help most of the time it’s just when I need him to do anything ‘extra’ he just sits around and no matter how many times I tell him it doesn’t change.
His constantly on his phone playing games, and our daughter will be sooking or trying to get his attention and will ignore her and after she fully cracks it or I say something will then talk to her/ see whats wrong, and yet again no matter how many times I tell him to get off his phone and play with her he still does it!! Or when we are out down the street, you don’t need to sit on your phone playing games, the other day I literally told him 3 times in a matter of 45 minutes to get off his phone while we were out.
Don’t get me wrong his an awesome father most of the time, but it’s just little things like this and the fact I feel like he obviously doesn’t care as I clearly say, and have been for months.
When I’m having a bad day can you just help a little extra, yet never does.
Or if I say about how often his on his phone, like the other day 3 times in 45 minutes yet obviously still didn’t get the message.
Maybe I’m being petty/bitchy, but I feel like I’m more upset because he clearly doesn’t care nor willing to listen to me.
His shit at communicating, but it’s gotten to the point that because he literally does not listen I’m at breaking point because I constantly feel like he doesn’t care about how I feel .
More of a rant then anything sorry
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You teach people how to treat you.
Youre saying he ignores you and your needs even when youre telling him directly, then you say oh he is an awesome father as though that means you dont deserve a partner that cares for you and treats you lovingly.
Lift your standards, you are pregnant with a little one you do deserve support and care, but some people will get away with what you let them, so if you tell yourself its ok because of xyz and you compromise, then youre making your own bed unfortunately nothing will change.
An awesome dad doesn’t ignore his child.......just saying! Stop trying to justify his behaviour. It’s time to tell him to “shape up or ship out”. You and your kids deserve better.
You say he's a great dad and does help out most of the time. Maybe when you're having a bad day he is too and he's withdrawing and using his phone as a distraction /crutch. I had awful pregnancies and it was hard on my husband too, not just me.
Sounds like my brother in law with his wife. She has the same gripes. They just had their 2nd kid and it’s not gotten any better. If not, worse.
Learn from others mistakes. He won’t change. It’s always been like this so another child won’t miraculously fix the situation.