does anyone have any tips on getting my 5 son to listen to me, he is fine with dad and his teacher, he just doesn't listen to me and it ends up with me yelling at him
does anyone have any tips on getting my 5 son to listen to me, he is fine with dad and his teacher, he just doesn't listen to me and it ends up with me yelling at him
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What worked for me is being consistent and taking a bit more time to make sure my son took me seriously when I first gave the instruction.
My first step was to decrease my chatter and requests. I realised I was very verbal and my requests got lost in a stream of verbal runs.
I also needed to make sure when I gave a request I used my Sons name, made sure I had eye contact and then give the demand in a clear firm voice. No pleases or thank you’s and no can you, could you or anything that sounded like a choice. So ‘Jason, go be your shoes on now’.
I’d count to three in my head. If he didn’t respond I’d walk over to him and say ‘Jason, I told you to put your shoes on now’ and physically take him to do’.
Praise the shit out of him anytime he does as he is told. It will take a while but if you are consistent he will learn that mum means what she asks and it’s better for him if he goes and does it straight away.
Initially it fee,s like it’s taking longer and more effort for you but it does get them to take you more seriously and it seemed to really break the cycle and the zoning me out.