My son is 8 and is very sexual, he’s always been like that.
Since he was a kid he’s always touched himself, I understand it’s normal so I’d tell him to do it in his room etc.
He’s always been interested in kissing and any sexual behaviour and in the past year or so he’s gotten worse. He rubs himself on everything, including me. He exposes himself and is always talking about sex and sexual acts. Hes tried touching my breasts before and is very focused on people’s appearances especially their weight. He is also a bit of a story teller.
Just tonight his sister found a video of him on her iPad singing about oral sex and then exposing himself.
I’ve spoken to him numerous times about it, I’ve punished him when appropriate (like tonight with 1 month no technology and a good talking to as to why). He says he hears a lot at school which I know happens but none of my other kids are like this.
There’s no history of sexual behaviour that I know of either.
He is a beautiful little boy, loving, caring and incredibly funny, he’s amazing, it’s just this one issue. There’s no other behavioural problems or problems at school.
I’m at my wits end and I just don’t know what to do about it.
Please no nasty comments or judgement.
TIA
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Have you considered getting him into seeing a child psychologist? They may have strategies to help him understand appropriate time and place distinctions
Time for a referral to specialist. I’d be asking for a referral to a psychologist and paediatrician.
I think I'd be really investigating where he's getting all this sexual information from, they do pick up bits and pieces at school but at 8 years old and having an understanding of oral sex, that and his overt sexualized behavior rings a bit of an alarm bell to me.
Not to worry you, but is it at all possible he's been exposed to explicit content or behavior by someone in your life?
I'd definitely get some professional assistance, start with GP for some referrals. Hopefully it's something as simple as hormone overdrive!
Good luck mama
Address this ASAP. go and see your GP and get ball rolling. Get him into counselling etc. This isnt something to sweep under the carpet etc.
Sorry but this is not normal for a 8 year old! They don't know that much at 8 years old unless they have been exposed to it and really explained in depth. Get professional help asap!
I have a ten year old son and this is so far from normal, you need to get to the bottom of where he has learn this stuff, please investigate this.
I work with kids his age. This is not normal. Please see a psychologist.
My son is 10 and has no interest in anything like this. I would be seeing someone I don’t think it’s normal.
My son was showing similar behaviour at 8 and ended up trying to get his 2year old brother to give him oral sex in the bath. I took him to doctors and psychologists and they all said it was normal exploration and just to keep an eye on it. Then at 13 he sexually abused my daughter who was two. He was removed from the home and was charged and underwent an intensive program for young sexual abusers. It took years for me to allow him back into our lives, but he ‘proved’ he knew it was wrong and was always careful about not being alone with my daughter etc. but then when he was 20 I found out he had been abusing her sexually again. I kicked him out, and have not seen him since. Which is heartbreaking as he is still my son, but he hurt my girl and is still not taking responsibility for it. I guess I’m saying get help NOW. Don’t accept that it’s ‘normal exploration ‘. Stop this now before it becomes so so so much worse.
Aww so sorry this has happened to ur family ❤️
This is really sad that he didn't get the help he needed as a child. Doctors shouldn't pass things like this off so easily.
Wow, what a tough situation, I really feel for you. Did you ever get to the bottom of why he is the way he is? Could the psychologists give you any insight? Sounds like you did the hard thing, but the right thing, you read so many women on here that were sexually abused by mums partner and their mothers didn’t believe them or ignored it.