Have you guys ever woke up one day and realised that you are living your husbands life?
He chooses who we socialise with, his chosen that we aren't getting married, he said if I cut my hair short, I'd look like a lesbian ( as a joke but I didn't find it funny), his chosen that we won't have any more kids, he says ots my fault I don't have a job, he said he wouldn't start the lawn mower for me because of equality & me being tough enough to do it (it's farked & takes ages to start, even he struggles with it.), I got to a point of crying the other day & went off at him, after days of his taunts, I apologised because I went to far & then he jokingly goes, it's okay I just wanted to head butt you & drop you the whole time you were going off.
Now his having a go at me because I've said I don't feel like I can do forever with him & that we will probably breakup because we want different things.
His blamed me for not having a job, for my applications always being rejected, says I only want marriage & kids because he doesn't want them.
I guess I'm asking how do you leave, when you have no money, no accommodation,no family or friends to stay with? I have two kids teen & 5 Any ideas
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Centrelink single parent and rent a unit.
But really, what if you just start living your life how you want.
Get your hair cut. Make new friends. Get hobbies. Go out.
Drop kick him to the curb, tell him he will end up with who he deserves , he sounds horrible !
Sounds like you lost yourself in that relatownship, he doesn't have any respect nor any desire to factor your needs or life goals, it sounds like your drowning in his shadow which is not so great ,
Yea equality but really he sounds like he is a overgrown man child...
Follow through get centerink, rent a unit , babysit look for work locally the is always a way once your out of the fog, leave him be , see how he goes finding someone else to cop his disgusting equality! Drop you or head butt you , he is a disgrace good luck
Yep, start doing your thing and tell him your life won’t be dictated to you anymore... not by anyone. If he doesn’t like it too bad. If he can’t handle it then he can’t actually handle “equality” can he? He also has the total freedom to leave at anytime he chooses.
Yes I did feel like that because I left my social group to relocate and was dating hubby within 2 weeks. Marriage and kids followed shortly after thus I didn't set up my own friend group, hobbies etc. The thing is, hubby encouraged me to do that and what held me back was post natal depression and anxiety. More recently I've started doing my own thing and he's been very supportive. Just do you. If he loves you he will get over it. My sister in law looks great with short hair but my brother loves long. I took her to get it cut... He still said he didn't like it. But he admitted after a few weeks that he loved how good she felt about herself...
I was in the same boat, ex isolated me from any friends and we moved every two years so it was impossible to get a job.
Now I never have to move again, court granted me permission to move back to my family and ex has relocated to same city.
Took me 92 job applications, 5 job interviews and I finally got the perfect job. Flexibility around the kids, a wage I can comfortably live off and a good work life balance. I even have time for myself!
Do not give up hope, took me 6months to get back to family, 9months after that to get the perfect job, 2 yrs on life is awesome. Kids are happy and settled, i’m happy and enjoying my children again.
Life isn’t perfect but it is awesome.