Hi ladies i need some advice. So my dd was approched by a older boy at school. He had told her not once but twice that "he is going to abduct" her.
Now she didnt tell me about this till the second time around. I notified the school and told her that when she sees this boy again to SCREAM as loud as she can, so the spotlight is on her.
Question to all of you as parents would you
A. Wait till that boy approachs her again and wait for the school to ring me.
B. Get her to walk around the parade and point him out so its delt with asap.
C. Ring the police and get them involved?
Please keep in mind i know my daughter isn't lying as thats not her personality.
And im one of those mums that go off as this isn't acceptable behavior.
The school and myself are also concerned for this boy and his home life. Its very disturbing behavior.
What does everyone suggest i do. I need my baby to be safe.
3 Replies
So the school are aware?
Yes, the school need to know specifically which child is doing this (as per question B).
Calling the police is a bit far, the school are probably dealing with much more of it than you are aware of, if they know which student it is saying these things they probably know much more about this child's situation than you do, they're certainly not going to give you specifics (I'm just saying this because sometimes underlay like nothing's getting done, when in actual fact it's just being dealt with discreetly because often the children perpetrating these incidents often are at risk too).
I think the wisest thing to do at this point is to not scare your daughter, but tell her to stay with her friends and in the playground where duty teachers can keep an eye on everything and if this boy bothers her again to go straight to a teacher.
In the meantime, see to it that they are making your daughter's and every child's safety a priority, I'd say this boy's intent is just to scare her but that's not acceptable either.
Yes if you tell the school, she can go around all the older classrooms and have a look at them and then tell you outside if she saw him.
I wouldn't tell her to scream, although I would want this known and handled, which would mean this boy would be told not to go near her. So she can just report to the teacher on duty if he does.
I would lean towards it being a troublemaker, saying stupid things to other kids, however I would want it know who it is so its handled and hopefully stops, so she's reassured, and so you're reassured.
The school does know. And i have kept calm about it. As for telling her to scream the school is fully on board and every teacher in the school knows about it.
She isnt wanting to go to school because of it all. He approached her in the library and the play ground. She is a VERY SMALL 6 year old. And very shy at that.
I want to get to the bottom asap. And for this boys sake to. There is something going on in his life for him to be doing this to little girls. And the school want to help and get to the bottom too.