Hi all
I need some advice please. I have a wonderful partner who is just amazing! We have been together for about a year n half and lived together for about 4 months now. I have 2 kiddies (9yrG,6yrB) who see their dad every weekend and also adore my partner. They have even referred to him as their parent.
My predicament is... My partner has told me that he doesn't feel a "parental" connection between himself and the kids.
How can I help him to feel more apart of their lives like a parent? I already let him discipline the kids when needed without undermining him, let him make decisions about them and anything else that helps to give him confidence when it comes to being a parent, but I don't know what else I can do
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Honestly it would be weird if he felt parental towards your children. They are not babies and they have two parents already.
What does that mean? Id be questioning him until youve got to the bottom of that question. Its really something that should have been established before moving in, so what is he saying now?
He wants to parent them more? He wants you to let him? Is he talking about rule setting and discipline?
Is he talking about being a parent and feeling love? Is he saying hes unhappy living as a family? There are so many specifics - what is he saying, what has happened for him to say it, what does he want moving forward?
Why does he need to? He isn’t their parent. I’m single and would love to repartner but I’m not looking for a new Dad! If my ex’s girlfriend ever tried to parent my kids I’d not be happy. Can’t they just be a special friend?