Hello
So got a call from the principal saying my son ( nearly 6) punched a girl in the stomach for not playing with him.
Bit of info.
His had bit of a rough start his been to behavior therapists/ occupational therapists ect . All to come out with possible ADD. I personaly dont think his hypa enough for that.
But at home he gets up set when his brother and sister dont play/ share with him and he was like that at a previous school he was at.
He gets ratty towards the end of the day and starts playing up.
At the last school they kept him with the special ed teacher for 10 min then let him go play at lunch and he got better.
So the kids at this school will only play with him at recess they said they dont play with him at lunch cause his a bit full on and gets a bit physical. But their happy to play with him at recess.
He kept asking and asking if they could play with him but they said no so he got frustrated and punched the closest kid which was a girl :(
We have been trying for ages with.
Its not nice to hit. You need to share. Sometimes you need to play what they want then you can play what you want with them. Ect.
Has anyone else had this. How did you go about getting them to understand properly and get better?
Thank you
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Firstly get him formerly assessed for ADD by a peadiatrician. You don’t have to be hyperactive to have ADD and kids with ADD often have trouble with impulse control and regulating there emotions. So getting that finally ruled out or in with a peadiatrician will be the best thing you can do to help your son.
Take him to a child psychologist...and a behavioral pediatrician. Good luck!
Sounds like hes lacking the skills and lunch time is too long without any intervention so hes getting wound up beyond the signs to a point where he cant cope.
Get him back to the psychologist, talk about getting the diagnosis done also ask what school supportsthey think he needs and take it back to the school.
As someone who is working within a classroom environment it greatly pains me to see parents who try to make excuses or ignore what medical professionals are telling you. Your child is not going to be labeled as bad or naughty if he has ADD it simply means he can get the support and help he needs to cope on a daily basis. I have a student who is diagnosed ADHD and is one of the loveliest children I know except when he does not take his medication. This is typically because his dad (50/50 custody arrangement) believes he doesn’t need it. This then leads to the student misbehaving and disrupting other students. It also puts his safety at risk at times. In the space of one week I caught him trying to start a fire with matches he had brought to school and attempting to cut his fingers with scissors because he was bored. Please for your sons sake follow advice given by the doctors on how to help him as not every child will be able to respond to being taught to just use their words.
My kids have many different diagnosis, but bad behaviour is never tolerated. If my children hurt someone, they must apologise and face the consequences of their actions. Every time. Never fail. My eldest two are finally getting the fact that consequences always happen, it's better to choose good consequences than bad. A diagnosis is never an acceptable excuse for bad behaviour.
(If needed we have tools and calm down spaces for the kids to retreat to so they can deal with big feelings in a safe and productive way.)
Imspeak to the school to see about getting help from their educational support officers. My mother is one and runs a “social stories” program and a supervised play space at lunch time for kids who need help with social interaction or find the lunch time playground too overwhelming.