This isn't to do with being a mother (I have a 3 yr old) but a sister.
I live with my brother, he is 20 and unemployed.
He does nothing around the house except play his Xbox 24/7. He is suppose to at least do the gardening and lawn but can't even do that weekly and we fight about it.
We fight about him leaving his dirty dishes in the sink when the dish washer is empty and will only take an extra 2sec to load his dishes. We fight that he doesn't take the bin out when it's full rather puts the rubbish next to the bin! He leaves his dirty towels in the laundry in front of the washing machine and empty tins of dog food in the laundry sink. There are currently dishes in the sink which have been there since Thursday and I have previously put them in his bed last time they were there over a week but that only resulted in a massive fight
When I work Mondays he does mind my daughter and sometimes in the afternoon when I go to gym. He does not clean up after her left alone himself so I come home to a very messy house. Also all he does with her is watch TV and play Xbox.
I do not know what to do. I am 24 have 2 jobs, study part time and pay all the bills because my brother has no income (mum took him to Centrelink and they won't give him anything because our parents earn too much and apparently he is still a dependant until 22, that's another frustrating story) I am out of ideas. I feel bad nagging him all the time because he does mind Alexis so I can work. But I am sick of doing absolutely everything. we rent off of our parents but if I speak to them about it it again ends in a massive fight that I'm a diba doba etc
Please help
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Might be time to move on, find yourself a new place to live. He can go home to mum and dad where he belongs until 21 or get himself a new room mate.
Time to move out! Maybe a share house with another single mum? That way you can split the cost of rent and bills & have more $ to save. He is not going to change and he sounds like a pig. If you want less stress in your life then move out. Will be a happier environment for your daughter I'm sure. You could look into childcare for the Monday you work (not sure if she is already in?).
Time to move. You should not be expected to be a mum to your brother. There are pleantly of ways you can get help - move in with a friend or another single mum, daycare for the Monday he looks after your daughter, and you will get rent assistance too for help with extra rent costs.
I felt sorry for my poor hard done by cousin, we let he stay with us TILL he found some where, We gave him a job, no rent, I made his lunch (what is one more lunch when I am making 4 already)
In return he used up all of our internet, ate our food winged about the house not being clean to his standards (I work full time and we have a business) and didn't so much buy a litre of milk.
6 months later My 5 year old kicked him out as he was sick of him eating all the good breakfast.
He smashed both our work vehicles and caused $10000 worth of avoidable mistakes.
Unfortunately there is way too many of them out there.
You have to be cruel to be kind