Hi ladies,
My partner and I have been together for 17yrs and we have one 10yr old together. Our relationship is quite complicated so I will try not to rabble too much. I ran away from home at 16 to be with him (his mother said I could live with them) we lived in different states. This meant I didn’t speak to my parents for the most part of a year, we slowly reconciled.
My partner and I have been through a lot. I have many health problems including OCD, depression and obesity. This places huge strain on the relationship - especially intimacy. My question to the sisterhood is this: as we are not married and haven’t said our in sickness and in health richer or poorer vows, would lack of intimacy be enough to end the relationship? I cannot give him sex as I have some issues with pain etc. but I do other things for him. But it never seems enough for him. I’m worried he will leave sooner than later.
Lack of intimacy
Lack of intimacy
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I think regardless of marital status if a partner is going to leave, they will. This is not to say your partner will or won't. But you need to have a conversation with him. Ask him, is this enough for you. Tell him your fears. Talk to each other. Instead of stewing on it.
There are no rules about what reasons are valid enough to leave or not, in fact some people don’t have a reason at all, they just aren’t happy. He has stuck around this long so it doesn’t sound like he’s going to leave but the only person who can answer this question is him. Talk to him, ask him how he feels, if he feels happy and satisfied in the relationship and work from there. Good luck and believe you are enough xxxx
Concentrate on yourself and getting healthy again. Strengthen the relationship with your parents. Have you seen a doctor about sex being painful? Or is it part of your other health problems?
Go to the Dr. sex doesn’t have to be painful trust me I had painful sex for YEARS! Saw a gyno got some tube things to stretch it all out and learnt how relax and it all became a lot better. I don’t care what anyone says sex and intimacy are a factor in a relationship and you need to have a big talk to your partner about needs and wants in a relationship. And if you can have sex vaginally try anal. It’s a bit sore at first but do it a couple times use lube it it doesn’t hurt anymore.
Get some help for your health problems you might find seeing a councillor for your mental health with dramatically improve your
Physical help also.