I have recently had a baby 6 weeks early was wondering am I supposed to just feed him and put him straight down no cuddles or stuff like that people are saying he will get used to it and expect it all the time
What to do?
I have recently had a baby 6 weeks early was wondering am I supposed to just feed him and put him straight down no cuddles or stuff like that people are saying he will get used to it and expect it all the time
What to do?
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Cuddle your baby. He's all you know and he needs that comfort.
I always cuddled my babies to sleep :)
Enjoy your bub while u can cause they grow so fast! Def give lots of cuddles!
Bub is just 6 weeks... hold him close and take it all in :-) As a mum trust your instincts and ignore others judgement.
You can’t cuddle a newborn too much.
Please cuddle your baby. I mean all babies are different but its such an old fashioned thought. You can't spoil a baby with love. Have a look into "gentle parenting" or even attachment and see if that's more your style. It's not for everyone. You'll find that own grove and what works for you. But there are a lot of benefits of touch for young babies, especially premmies. I got told I was spoiling my daughter a lot by cuddling her but it went against what felt natural to me. Sometimes bub will be happy to be put down to play so you can get stuff done. Sometimes they'll just want to be held and you can either let them cry for a bit or just hold them. I think it's super important especially in those early days to meet their needs and to build that relationship so they know you'll respond to them. I truly believe babies that have strong attachments with parents who meet their early needs end up becoming more independent because they're more confident and know that you're their safe place to come back to.
If he goes off to sleep and is happy without you there, then yes put him down. As much as its lovely to cuddle them, and I don't believe in training a baby, you can get a baby that sleeps well and keep them in that good routine. If you don't, youre breaking your own back.
Don't listen to anyone, trust your gut instincts! If you want to cuddle him, you cuddle him til the cows come home. I snuggle the crap out of my newborn and no he doesn't expect it. Follow the feed, play, sleep schedule if you wanted a schedule, feed, let him play (with you) and then put to sleep when you recognise the sleep signs. However, I don't stick to this myself and I cuddle and feed to sleep and have no issues in doing so! They're only this young once :)
Just do what feels right!
I had so many bloody people tell me I was spoiling my son for cuddling him to sleep or that I was setting him up for bad habits, he'd never sleep in his own bed, he would never learn independence blah, blah, blah.
Total rubbish!
That said, if he's happy to be put down after a feed take the opportunity to make a cuppa or get some odds and ends done or just relax for a bit.
Cuddle as much as you like, try to avoid rocking to sleep though, that is a bad habit to break it's like crack to babies they will need it every time they even slightly wake up 😂. It's easier fr them to eventually self settle without motion.
Do whatever feels comfortable for you. People are arseholes when it comes to give parenting advice.
Some professionals believe that the first three months are like a "fourth trimester" where lots of comfort is needed. That's what I went with because that's what worked for me.
Good luck, mumma
CUDDLE YOUR BABY!
Hold your baby, rock your baby, sing to your baby. Stare at your little baby studying every perfect inch of his precious face.
People will give your all sorts of advice but go with your instincts. Xx