Hello sisterhood, i need some kind words and strength.
My partner and i have been together for almost 8 years, we have 1 child together.
Before falling pregnant we had never lived together properly. That was 6 years ago. I never realised how selfish and childish he was until we moved in together.
I suffered, still do, post natal depression and anxiety and he offered no support.
He's main concern was me losing my sex drive.
I have tried leaving before but through circumstances and guilt i stayed with him, things have not changed, and i know they won't.
I am full of resentment and hurt. I constantly feel like a piece of furniture, here for convenience and for him to show he is in a relationship (he had never been in a proper one until me).
I know my heart hasn't been in this for a long time, but i am feeling stuck. I committed myself to being a stay at home mum and had to enter a debt agreement after having our child as he wouldn't help pay for my loan and i couldn't afford to on my own. Everything is in his name.
My family love him, and made me feel horrible when i left him the first time. Our friends are all mutual, i have noone to turn to for proper advice.
I know things in life aren't meant to be easy, but i know life is only lived once, and i feel like i stopped living my life just to keep him happy.
I am terrible at confrontation, i just don't know what to do anymore.
Please help ladies, much love.
How do i end an unhappy relationship?
How do i end an unhappy relationship?
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Firstly, build your own network. Psychologist, womens circle, its time to start building your own life separate from him so that when you leave youre not alone or bombarded with judgment from the people you have now, real friends will support you and be on your side.
Once you have that I think you will find it easier to move on than to stay.
Your storey sounds so similar to mine, I left a few times but the guilt just ate me up inside. Until one day it got to much. I just left. I hurt, I cried, i drank, it was the hardest darkest time of my life. But I’m okay now, my kids are okay now, I have been in an incredibly supportive and perfect relationship. The thing that helped me through was being on tinder, I first went on there just to be able to talk to new people so I wouldn’t feel so alone but I feel in love with someone perfect. It’s so hard to leave especially when your family really like him, my family and his family have known each other since before I was born so that was hard. But if you leave you will one day wake up and wondered how you stayed instead of how your going to get through the day. Xo