I’m an angry mum and I hate it. I never used to be like this. I get angry at the small things that. I never used to. I get angry and stressed when the house isn’t tidy. I yell when they don’t do what they are meant to. My daughter hits and screams at me. I don’t smack but when she’s laying into me and nothing has worked I’ll smack her. I’m a single mum and I feel like I’ve gotten worse since I’ve moved into a family members rental. My yard is a mess with Reno’s that started after I moved In without my concent. I’m just angry most of the time. To the point where I’m nearly crying. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
Edited to add I work part time 5.5 hours a day
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Sounds like you're in a rut, need ato change things up. Angry with a messy house, prioritise tidying up, kids don't do what they're meant to, but are you doing stuff with them or are you depressed and in your own world just half assed shouting at them then snapping? No judgement, but actions feed feelings that feed actions it's a cycle it can drag you way down or bring you back up.
Try changing it by starting you day with positive actions. Tidy up the house, enjoy a good breakfast, go and do something fun together with the kids.
If that doesn't help things, go and see your doctor it's no good to feel like this everyday and it can be helped.
1. Move out if possible.
2. Change the routine. Pack breakfast and go enjoy it elsewhere. Then mid day when your child/ren sleeps or has a rest, then do an hour or two of housework. Be out more, not at home, see if a new routine helps.
I work part time. 5.5 hours a day.
I also am not really in a position to move atm 😪 I don’t have any money for bond.
I work part time. 5.5 hours a day.
I also am not really in a position to move atm 😪 I don’t have any money for bond.
This sounds like a mixture of anxiety/depression and general overwhelm. I'd suggest to see your GP when possible, talk about coping strategies. Ensure you're getting enough sleep. Drink plenty of water. Try not to use mechanisms like alcohol to cope (not saying you are, just mentioning it can make you feel worse). See if you can carve out a half hour a day for a walk, or some meditation (there's great apps available, I recommend Calm).
Try to wrest back some control over your situation:
- If moving isn't an option, ask your landlords to finish up the renos ASAP and bugger off;
- Keep one or two rooms in the house tidy (the kitchen and living area if possible) and close the doors to the others;
- try to keep your interactions with your kids as calm as possible, maybe look into PPP parenting or getting some assistance for yourself. Remember they're reacting to your state - if your dealings with them are tense and fraught, they will feel stressed and lash out.
This might sound a lot of preaching, but I've literally just been through this. We had a house we weren't happy in, everything felt overwhelming, I was anxious, experiencing OCD symptoms and my kid was acting out badly. We *did* move in the end, because it was an option for us, but I also sought help from my GP, started on a low dose of medication, started eating better and exercising, and getting more sleep. It's basically a 180° turnaround from where we were.
It can get better. Start small. You got this xxxx
Hi sorry you feel like this. I go through phases mostly when I'm hormonal or tired. I realise I had to let some things go & yes tolerate the mess to an extent. prioritise & do things around the home in stages. Perhaps when u do have a chance do something for yourself like gardening or exercise or a Beaty treatment or massage & do something fun & nice with your kids / watch a movie or go to the beach. If your anger doesn't shift perhaps see a doctor & see if it's not depression or something lacking in your diet.
Take care of yourself & hope things improve for you & your family xo 💕