Christmas season has turned shitty for me since that was the day my mum told my dad she wanted a divorce. It broke me, my daughter's second Christmas and this happened. I feel as though I can't deal with this season because of the negativity from back then.. I have a loving family of my own and my eldest daughter shares the day with her dad and then it's just me,my youngest daughter and my partner.. I feel as in letting my youngest daughter down, I don't want to celebrate I don't want to even think of the day I want it to be over as soon as it starts..
Im the one who wears the heart on the sleeve so it really affected me, I didn't want to be involved in the mess, but it still hurts and annoys me that this time of year should be fun and happy times but it's not..
How do I make it fun again so my children don't miss out?
How do I learn to love Christmas season again?
How do I learn to love Christmas season again?
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Start new traditions and new different memories with your kids. Make it a new type of fun. It won’t completely solve your feels but it might make it a little more enjoyable for you and mostly, enjoyable for your kids which will make you beam to see them happy.
Sorry to be blunt, but you put your big girl pants on make it is magical for your kids. The excitement and happiness in their eyes is what will help you move on. Just to put into perspective, this is the first Christmas people will celebrate after the death of a loved one, husband, father, mother, sister, brother, daughter or son. Yours are still alive, focus on that. I don’t believe other people’s problems should make yours less valid, at all, but just trying to give you some perspective to help you get your mojo back. Good luck and merry Christmas xxx
You take the energy you're wasting on being bitter with your parents and channel it into making Christmas what you want it to be.
Stop dwelling on that one negative Christmas experience and start focusing on the great stuff. You have 2 great kids, a great partner, a great roof over your head, great food in the fridge, you see where I'm going with this?
I understand your parents divorce has had an impact on you, maybe some counseling to help you deal with these feelings and help you to stop associating them with Christmas would be a good idea!
This is going to sound harsh but u need to suck it up and move on for your own kids sake. Ur the adult don’t do to them what ur parents did to you.
Your mum probably grinned and wore her own feelings internally. You are an adult now and obviously your mother made Christmas special. Perhaps it's her time to enjoy her own life? Thinking of herself and what she needs.
Your parents were probably not happy.
You can focus on your family, create traditions for yourselves.
Enjoy the magic that comes from kids at Christmas.
My Dad passed away 5 days before Xmas after only a 6 week battle with Cancer. We live in another state so only got to see him a few days before he passed. Then his funeral was 3 days after Xmas.
The good that came out of that was our kids got a big family Xmas, with lots if kids and people we never see all together. That part was lovely!
We usually have only us 4 as our closest relative is 10hrs away.
Maybe try and understand why your parents separated, it might help your healing.
My hubby's parents separated a few years ago, it has been so good for both of them. Their new partners have bought sides out of both of them that they would have never have seen.
Every one deserves to be happy, especially YOUR kids, make it magical for them.
Do a week lead up.
Carols, Xmas lights, be out in the community, soak up the spirit.