Hi everyone, I have a sensitive question about my 10yo daughter. Last night I walked into the bathroom when she was in the bath and saw she had the water running on her vagina, I’m assuming because it felt nice. I was surprised so I said you shouldn’t do that. Now I feel bad that I probably made her feel embarrassed. I really don’t know how to deal with it. I understand mastibation is a natural thing to do but I didn’t think it was something I’d be having to deal with at 10. I always thought I’d be really open with this stuff with my kids but now I’m facing it I’m freaking out a bit and I’m sad that my little girl appears to be growing up way to fast. Please how would you handle this situation
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Little girls do this from baby age. The minute the nappy is off they are exploring there bodies.
It's totally normal to explore in this way from a very very young age.
But girls can start puberty at this age. I'm in my mid 40s and when I was in primary school there were girls who were 9 who had periods and wearing bras. I was 11 when I got my period and so were my sisters. This isn't a new thing.
It's definitely time to mentally prepare yourself that your daughter will fe experiencing some changes in her body and if she doesn't her friends will be starting to see some changes.
I'm not sure I would jump to masturbation, as above girls of all ages do this. Also remember theres always time to fix something you feel you did wrong, so just casually say, oh hey I'm sorry about that when you were in the bath, I regret saying that it is wrong, I was having a silly moment, but its totally ok for you to do that in your own private bath time, ok?
Small casual sentence, all fixed.
I don't think that it was really masterbation?
I disagree.
I used to do this too, but as an older teen (15ish).
Best orgasms.
It feels nice, so that's why she's masturbating.
Why, because it upsets your sensibilities?
Do plenty of research, learn all the anatomically correct terms, and what each part of the female body does, so you can confidently have a conversation with her, a conversation that hopefully will be ongoing, as she learns you can be trusted not to react badly...
Apologise to her and speak to all in the household about privacy and that if a door is closed, you knock, and wait to be invited in before entering.
Ask yourself if you’re freaking out because she’s a girl, would you react the same if it was your son?
Oh and re the comment saying to tell her to wash her hands afterwards, I’ve seen similar advice before re young people mastibating, um how about washing your hands before you stick em anywhere near your junk!?!?!