So i have a bit of an issue with the neighbourhood kids.
My son is 9, he is a kind boy, but is pretty full on, very energetic, over confident bordering on cocky ;) he is friendly but hes not for everyone 😂
Two boys ages 10 and 13 live down the street. They have played with my son every now and then but they never really got along and they havent played together in almost a year.
We have gotten a few new neighbours over the past little while. A brother and sister aged 14 and 11, 10 and 15year old brothers and most recently a 9 year old little boy.
My son plays with the 9 and 10 year old alot and they get along well.
There was 2 occasions in the past where the 2 boys down the street have said things not so nice to my son but i let it slide.
Recently all 5 bigger kids have bullied my son. (First time i wasnt home, but my partner said he spoke to them..my kids have now told me that he didnt)
Today my son came in pretty upset, told me he tried to say hello to the 10year old he plays with but the 5 older kids told him to "go away" "your dumb" "your an asshole" and a few others choice words im not sure exactly what was.
When my son told me i went put the front and said to them "you guys need to remember that use are alot older then my son, fair enough if you dont want to play with him but dont call him an asshole. Dont play with him, thats fine but no need to be nasty".
I normally avoid doing thing like that but i was quite upset on behalf of my son and felt i handled it well.
Now my question is, if it happens again what should i do?
Should i tell their parents? I have introduced myself to the parents before but 2 of them were quite rude and seemed..to be honest quite up themselves and i dont think theyll speak to their children on my sons behalf.
What would you guys do?
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You did fine.next time dont be so nice. Its not fine for them to exclude him and speakto him like that, he went over to see his friend not them.
Reinforce to him that its not ok for them to be meanor speak badly to them and go through what he could say.
I have a similar issue but with my daughter. She is 8 and the neighbourhood kids have picked on her because she goes to a Catholic school and they all go to the same school (why pick on a child for that reason I have no idea????) but I said the said the same as you pretty much ("Hey, my daughter is a lot younger than you guys. You don't have to play together or anything but please don't be nasty. There is no need to be mean to someone just because of the school they go to") I find their parents rude as well...that's why we keep to ourselves and if we notice they are walking past we will wait until they are out of sight until we walk down the street.
Do you think the parents would even care? If not, I wouldn't bother telling them.
I think your response was fair, if it happens again just reiterate that you won't tolerate mean behavior.
If it becomes a constant issue I would speak to the parents and encourage your son to stay away from them.