I have an 11 yo son who I share custody with 50/50 with his father. Until recently, my partner and I have co parented amicably. For an number or reasons, that relationship is no longer amicable and I have concerns (which the school has raised also) for my son's well being when he is at his father's house. Long story short, my son says sometimes he doesn't feel safe at his house, but wants to continue living there unless things get worse. I am going through the mediation process to address the issues I have, but this takes time. So for the meantime, I purchased my son a phone so that he can reach me if he needs to, or ever feels unsafe. The issue is that when he is at his father's, my ex won't allow his access to his phone and switches it off, as well as blocks mine and my partner's number on his and his partner's phone. My question is this: is there any way that I am able to legally make my ex give my son access to his phone while we go through mediation?
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I think thats what mediation is for. Maybe explain to your son how when something feels wrong, you need to stand up to have your needs met BEFORE things go wrong, not wait until after.
Good luck it would be hard on you
Could the father be manipulating the son into staying there? It seems your son is crying out for help. Everytime he mentions it does he mention staying as a quick after thought? Has his father threatened him or if he just scared of what could happen if he tells him he no longer wishes to stay? It really depends why the boy is scared. Maybe have a serious talk and see why he's scared and that he doesn't need to stay and that you will keep him safe. Give him the kids help line and tell him he can call it and speak with them or talk to the school councillor
Is the phone your sons phone or your ex's phone?? Legally it shouldn't matter your son should be able to contact you just as he shiuld be able to contact his dad ...but it just might make things easier if its your ex's phone to buy a cheap phone for your son ...you can call him on and he can call you on
Did the school report their concerns to child protection services? That would help your case.
I’d keep him home, and have him see a child psychologist so hopefully they can hear the truth, and report it also