So I have been married for 16 years and past 4 he is just isn't into affection towards me at all. He isn't having an affair as he comes straight home from work and does nothing. I know he has depression and low testosterone but he won't help himself. Our love lif in non existent and I'm a highly sexual person and it kills me. I beg him for it and get knocked back time and time again. I try and think about how something is affecting him but a loveless marriage is killing me. I don't want this for much longer. I talk to male friends and they can't believe he is not into sex. It can be months at a time. If you try and help someone who doesn't want help where does that leave you.
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I think if you've genuinely tried everything to help him and he isn't working on the situation it's time to go
I was in a similar situation, ours was brought on by bad health though, but it was a sexless marriage. I didn't want a divorce, we get along ok, we have kids and a life together, but the rejection was horrible. We had sex once in about 18 months. So I told him that given everything else was more or less ok in our relationship, that I needed to have sex with other men, just sex, to feel wanted. He didn't say no, he understood, BUT then his behaviour changed, it was like a wake up call for him I think and it was like he decided that if he had sex with me then I wouldn't need anyone else. Sex is more like once a week now and he's not just going through the motions. I think that the more sex you have, the more you want, and now he wants it again. He isn't depressed though, sounds like your hubby needs some help in that department.