Lost myself

Lost myself

I'm really struggling at the moment.

I'm 31, have a Miss 11 and a 1/2 who has ASD and two step daughters.

I'm not working at the moment, looking though. Though it's difficult finding something that's hours I can actually work.

I don't have any friends since moving to Canberra late last year. no-one I can send a quick txt to saying "lets meet up for a coffee and a chat". I've forgotten how to make friends.
I struggle to find things in common with other women.

I'm finding that I don't have anything that's just for me.

I've been trying to think of things that I can do that don't cost anything, but coming up blank.

How do others do it?

Posted in:  Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Self Care, Health & Wellbeing

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Hi, this is exactly me. So the psych recommended to me to start doing things I like, that's where I'll find my friends. And put myself out there, invite people to do things I like doing, that step to forming a real friendship with acquaintances. She said even if people say no, keep putting yourself out there.

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Stephanie Holland

I've organised to go to a Mumma Tribe get to together this week, so I'm hoping that I don't over think it and manage to talk myself out of it before Thursday.

Thank you for your advice. :)

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Can you look for a support group like a "my time" group. In WA we have My Time groups where we meet up with other mums just like us ie other parents of a child with a disability. I've found that most mums in the group are like me. Struggle to make friends and/or don't know how to make friends. I'm not sure what they'd be called over there but I'm sure it's nation wide. We usually meet up without our kids have coffee and a chat about normal every day life and can get advice from each other when we're having a hard time understanding our kids. I've made plenty of lovely friends from my group and we stay in contact with each other outside of the group also. Good Luck!! I know how hard it is, especially when we have children with other needs.

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Stephanie Holland

I'd forgotten about My Time! I looked it up and there's a group fairly close to me soI've sent off a contact request email to the coordinator.
Thank you!!

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