When do you say enough is enough and walk away from family, even though it will break your heart? Especially when it is a parent.
One of my parents (D) have changed for the worse because of a mid life crisis. I don't know who this person is anymore. They are abusing my other parent (J) (emotionally and financially) and blaming them for all the wrongs in their life. This parent (D)refuses to even consider that they are the problem. No substance or alcohol abuse. D has become money hungry and it is all they seem to care about.
I feel like I have to protect my kids from this person (D) (never done anything). They are so rude and hate filled.
This is breaking my heart but I cannot continue being around this person anymore. It is affecting my kids and my own marriage. D has never liked my husband and belittles him every chance he gets.
Adding to this is my Husband and I are being blamed for the break up, all because we got some help during a difficult time from J.
Obviously there is much more to the story but it would give me away and cause more issues for J if D saw this. Also id be here writing a novel for everything that has happened.
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That's enough for me. Effecting kids is not OK. Belittling your husband not ok. Abusing the other parent not OK.
Just one of those things is enough!
Yep, it’s enough! You have plenty of reasons to cut them out... and to be honest, you don’t even need reasons to cut a person out.
Learn to walk away I f they no longer serve you, grow you, or make you happy.
Get yourself a good therapist to help you through the grief, and close the door on this toxic parent.
Perhaps the loss of valued relationships in their life might just trigger a wake up call, but regardless, not your fault, not your responsibility.
As the saying goes "no your monkies, not your circus"
I always ask myself the question "would I put up with this behavior from anyone else?"