Being a mum is really hard work for me. It is exhausting. I have to make a real effort to balance my life so I enjoy being a mum. For me that's getting some me time, working/volunteering in some capacity. When I do those things I find being a mum much easier and I can enjoy it, at least at times.
Today's mums are under so much more pressure to do things that were not expected two generations ago. I mean when my mum was a kid they were sent outside to play from 9am until 5pm. That was the norm. People didn't spend anywhere near the time parenting like out generation does.
That's right! And parenting one on one, no one leaves their kids to play, we don't work together to have a few parents take the kids and the rest go off, we all have to stay with our kids the whole time, and look at our kids, and talk about our kids, it's a crushing society for people that don't have Childcare.
I've found that it's all in the balance. It's so easy for the balance to tip and you get stuck and become a slave to the kids and no sleep and it's crushing, it's not enjoyable at all, then add the guilt that you can't do it and don't enjoy it and can't seem to get out of it -because of the kids.
But tip the balance a little, get your sleep, get your free time, your adult time, nurture yourself even just a little, and the rest is ok, you can manage it, even enjoy it.
I hate it too.
it’s draining, it’s exhausting emotionally, mentally and physically. every day is like groundhog day... wake up at the crack of dawn, breakfast, cleaning, morning tea, cleaning etc etc. does my head in.
I adore, cherish and love my kids, of course I do.
I’m currently in the process of getting a job. in between having my children I’ve always worked and it gave me back a sense of who I was before having children. I was back to socialising (my job is customer service based), I had ‘me’ time (driving to and from work with the music up loud! bliss) and I had a sense of financially contributing. having a job gives me back my independence. that’s my suggestion, is to get back into the workforce. it’ll help!
Let's face it once you become a mum you become a slave. I have an only child and honestly I wouldn't be able to cope with any more. I am an introvert and I need my me time to feel happy. What brings you joy in life? My me time includes reading, music, watching favourite tv shows, spirituality. Try to find ways to create more joy in your life . Taking a day off, ask for help, Go shopping alone etc
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Being a mum is really hard work for me. It is exhausting. I have to make a real effort to balance my life so I enjoy being a mum. For me that's getting some me time, working/volunteering in some capacity. When I do those things I find being a mum much easier and I can enjoy it, at least at times.
Today's mums are under so much more pressure to do things that were not expected two generations ago. I mean when my mum was a kid they were sent outside to play from 9am until 5pm. That was the norm. People didn't spend anywhere near the time parenting like out generation does.
That's right! And parenting one on one, no one leaves their kids to play, we don't work together to have a few parents take the kids and the rest go off, we all have to stay with our kids the whole time, and look at our kids, and talk about our kids, it's a crushing society for people that don't have Childcare.
yep, my mum used to have a babysitting club. So the parents used to basically take it in turns to babysit each other kids. It was fantastic.
I've found that it's all in the balance. It's so easy for the balance to tip and you get stuck and become a slave to the kids and no sleep and it's crushing, it's not enjoyable at all, then add the guilt that you can't do it and don't enjoy it and can't seem to get out of it -because of the kids.
But tip the balance a little, get your sleep, get your free time, your adult time, nurture yourself even just a little, and the rest is ok, you can manage it, even enjoy it.
I hate it too.
it’s draining, it’s exhausting emotionally, mentally and physically. every day is like groundhog day... wake up at the crack of dawn, breakfast, cleaning, morning tea, cleaning etc etc. does my head in.
I adore, cherish and love my kids, of course I do.
I’m currently in the process of getting a job. in between having my children I’ve always worked and it gave me back a sense of who I was before having children. I was back to socialising (my job is customer service based), I had ‘me’ time (driving to and from work with the music up loud! bliss) and I had a sense of financially contributing. having a job gives me back my independence. that’s my suggestion, is to get back into the workforce. it’ll help!
Yep i do my boys kill me mentally daily. I dont enjoy it much at all.
School hols are tough
Let's face it once you become a mum you become a slave. I have an only child and honestly I wouldn't be able to cope with any more. I am an introvert and I need my me time to feel happy. What brings you joy in life? My me time includes reading, music, watching favourite tv shows, spirituality. Try to find ways to create more joy in your life . Taking a day off, ask for help, Go shopping alone etc