Can you please post for me?
My ex-partner wants to have our two children (8+4) 50/50. There are no safety issues and I know they will be well looked after.
Can I have some experiences on how this worked or didn't work for your family/kids?
How did it affect your centrelink?
Just to add, however my centrelink is affected will not change the decision. There are other children that are not involved in this situation so I was just after an idea of what it could possibly be.
Thank you
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My daughter is 5.5 and starting October we will be going 50/50. It has been a while coming and she seems to be ready. We co-parent well though and live close by so I think they are the main things that would make it possible/workable :-). I think for the younger ones (up until the age of your eldest or so) week about scenario is a little long to be away from either parent. What we are doing is I have fixed Mon &Tues. Dad has fixed Wed & Thurs and then we alternate Friday through Sun. In a fortnight period (14 days) this works out to be 5,2,2,5 (being nights with each parent). When we start - for holidays we are going to do week about but with a mid week sleepover with the other parent to break the week up. See how she goes (being fun holidays etc she may go OK with the week). This is just how we plan to work it... :-) what works for some doesn't work for others.
We have 50/50 for our kids 9 & 7. Friday to Friday. I personally would prefer to have them all the time and only send them to dads every second weekend. (I cry and feel very down after they go back to dads)
Kids would often prefer to stay with me longer because their father is quite cruel to me and often talks negatively about me to them. ( I never say a bad word against him though) but they also said they enjoy equal time with both parents and feel very sad for their friends who don't get to see both parents equally.
Good luck to you and I hope you have a better relationship with your ex then I do.