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I have 5 children been with my partner for 15 years. Last 18 months have been rough i had baby, partner had affair, partner on heavy drugs (its undercontrol for now),struggles with alot. Which made me stronger and stand up.
My partner seems to still do what he wants goes out, goes away with mates,spends his money and then we left with having to live off my money until he gets paid. Recently we wenr dinner date at pub got home and he went back to pub and blew his money and took my money out of my account. ive now been asking for the money he takes from me back. His being childish about it and when he did this in the past i would let it slide. Yes he pays larger bills but i also pay bills too plus buy food for house(making his lunch for work in mornings). I dont go out, never treat myself with anything, everything goes to children or bills. Am i being unrealistic? Finally feel to stand up but why make me weak.
Am i being unrealistic
Am i being unrealistic
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You are being far too nice and forgiving!!!
He's cheated on you
He's a drug addict
On top of that rather than seeing his money as the families money he sees it has HIS money to do what he wants with.
You are in a whole world of trouble with this guy and I don't know why you are having babies with him. This is not a healthy situation for you and the kids..
Omg thats ludacrous. You cant run a secure house with this going on. What a lowlife, lock him out asap. He needs to step up if he wants to be part of this house and you need to feel what life without him and this bullshit is like, having kids is hard enough, hes making it 100 times harder for you.
I don't know what you mean by his drug use being under control! What do you think he did with the families money last night? It is highly likely that money went to drugs!
You won't get that money back because he doesn't have it and will never have it because he is a selfish drug addict.
Is this the life you want for your kids? Is this fair to you and them?
Don't waste the next 15 years of your life on him. You need to start building a secure safe life for you.
At the very least Change the bank accounts so he no longer has access to the money you get.
And you keep having kids with him because......? Where did the money go? Most people don't quit addictions, they switch, so what is his new addiction? From your post and going back to the pub, I would suggest alcohol or gambling (if there are pokies there), I'm sure it's one or the other. He's a loser, you deserve so much better, ditch him. You and your children will be so much happier without this dickhead, good luck, you've had five children, you're a strong woman.
You have answered your own question.... You have grown, he has not. He's not being a good partner or father. You and your family deserve better. Do you want to be in the same predicament in 10 years?