I currently live in my parents rental. No perks of discounted rent or anything like that. My father actually does what he wants. He currently doing work outside much to my horror which is taking months! Work inside needs to be done which isn't being done. It's a tiny house too. I no longer have an outdoor shed or anywhere to store my belongings. It's actually pretty stressful! My house looks like a mess outside but there isnt anything I can do about it.
I've found a rental that's the same price with a bigger house two bathrooms 4 bay shed. A large block that's we can have a agisted animal at. My father is cross and angry I'm even considering it. Apparently I'm being unfair! It's because he has all this unfinished work he would need to do if I moved out! I'd be saving myself around $50pw. Am I being selfish for considering moving? I just don't know what the right thing to do is.
Edited to add; Talking gets no where. What he thinks is right. He shouldn't have started the renos because there isn't money to complete them. I've kept quiet for so long and I seriously hate living here. I've got nowhere to store belongings. It's a tiny as house. Another family member lived in another rental for less rent but apparently that's just not going to happen. I don't want to go outside because it's a dump! I hate it so much. I get thrown in my face that I'm being helped but I'm actually not at all. That apparently it's a great thing that's been done for me to be able to live here! But I've literally just been stressed from the start! I'm pretty sure I regret moving here in the first place! I was renting prior and I don't think I even had this much stress about it even with inspections! I'm that unhappy I've stopped caring what my house looks like because I really don't care because I can't change anything with storage or the way it all looks. I seriously was paying $20 more a week for a much nicer and bigger house! Two bathrooms large house, Decent yard, double lock up garage. I should've stayed in the house.
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He will work it out and Im sure he will fix it up and get a tenant in or adjust the rent to get a tenant in in those conditions with work being done. It will work out in the long run, however being family, the only thing is to make sure he will be ok in the short run too and not leave him in the air. Could you give a months notice so he can finish up some work and get ready?
You are not being selfish. Your dad has been taking advantage of you!
Oh hell no! I'd be packing my stuff as we speak lol.
He's just pissed that he won't get another tenant in that'll put up with what you have, let alone getting one in to a house that needs that much work (not to mention he's probably breaching a few rental laws too).
You do what's best for you, you don't owe your dad anything hun!
I'm going to go against the grain here, it depends. If your dad started the renos due to you living there and you agreed to it, I wouldnt leave him in the lurch as it would be very problematic to get a new tenant at this point. I would sit down and have a chat to him, how long it is going to take amd how you are feeling so you can come up with a compromise. Maybe he can decrease the rent or you promise to stay for another three months until renos are done. I don't think walking out mid renos is fair on him and it is only 50 dollars a week saving. For the sake of your relationship with your dad, I would try to communication through the problem, not just leave.
Agreed and renting through himshould be a good deal for you too. Dont forget how shitty it is to deal with real estates, try to arrange a deal with dad but if you just dont want to live there no matter what, at least leave nicely.
Just because you found a rental doesn't mean you'd be approved, definitely don't go burning bridges. Research rents in the area for the size house and yard you have and see if what you're paying is comparable. If it's not negotiate a lower rent and a time frame for renos to be completed so he can get a tenant. I think he's being unfair charging full price for a house under going renovations.
Talking gets no where. What he thinks is right. He shouldn't have started the renos because there isn't money to complete them. I've kept quiet for so long and I seriously hate living here. I've got nowhere to store belongings. It's a tiny as house. Another family member lived in another rental for less rent but apparently that's just not going to happen. I don't want to go outside because it's a dump! I hate it so much. I get thrown in my face that I'm being helped but I'm actually not at all. That apparently it's a great thing that's been done for me to be able to live here! But I've literally just been stressed from the start! I'm pretty sure I regret moving here in the first place! I was renting prior and I don't think I even had this much stress about it even with inspections! I'm that unhappy I've stopped caring what my house looks like because I really don't care because I can't change anything with storage or the way it all looks. I seriously was paying $20 more a week for a much nicer and bigger house! Two bathrooms large house, Decent yard, double lock up garage. I should've stayed in the house.
Move. As long as you do it right, give notice and tidy up after you move so he has nothing to come back at you over. You can't control how he will react.
We lived in a small one bedroom and half a bathroom cottage for many years, it was my MiL house but we lived in it rent free - just paid rates and maintenance. It was un-rentable in the condition it was in so it cost her nothing to have us in it and we put the "rent money" towards a loan deposit. Once we had enough we bought the shit box house for cheap and put a brand spanking new house in its place. This is what I'd call helping, can't stand people that use and abuse anyone let alone their own blood to make a buck.
I'm sorry, but it sounds like you're being taken advantage of. Yes he's your Dad and he's family, but that doesn't give him the right to walk all over you. Move out into the other rental you found. Tell him it's more suited to your needs and cheaper, then leave it at that.
Good luck!! You've got this ☺