I feel stupid for even saying this, but I am a SAHM and 31 weeks pregnant and feel like I'm drowning in my own house. I have 3 kids and a husband and my husband refuses to lift a finger ( because he works ) . My youngest who is only a toddler pulls everything out every day and I'm constantly having to pick things up ten times a day.
Usually I would be fine, but being heavily pregnant I'm struggling to be able to bend up and down. My husband keeps bringing home crap from his parents house that he used to own, so I have banned it coming into the house. I feel like my house is cluttered and I can't even hire a cleaner because my house is too unorganized for a cleaner to even come in.
I literally want to burn my house down, just so I don't have to deal with it anymore.
I have never felt so disorganized in my life. Before my toddler I worked full time , my husband helped a little bit and my kids were at school. So my house was atleast tidy. I have tried organizing programs , my parents take my toddler once a week as they know how overwhelmed I have become. But I find that when I do have that alone time I'm just trying to recouperate from exhaustion being pregnant and having a toddler.
I know I'm lucky to have all this time to be at home, but I'm seriously regretting it and wish I had an outside job, so I didn't have to deal with it anymore.
I feel like I'm drowning
I feel like I'm drowning
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You know what I did. Child locks on everything, baby gates and locks on doors to rooms I didn't want my child to have access to! Oh and I boxed up stuff that we didn't need access to.
I hate to break the bad news but things won't get easier once baby arrives as you'll be trying to keep the toddler out of mischief while feeding, changing etc.
So start toddler proofing now. Your parents sound super supportive and I'm sure if you directed there energy proactively that could help. It would also help them in the long run too! Could your mum and help you put locks on things, box some stuff up, put some things up high and install some baby gates?
You could also hire someone like 'hire a hubby' to instal locks and baby gates.
Even getting a play pen.
Set aside a weekend before baby comes along for organising and cleaning up. Tell hubby you need his help, the clutter is making you anxious and overwhelmed.
Hire a skip bin and have another pile for charity and be ruthless! Go through every room in the house and only keep what you need, get rid of anything broken, old toys and clothes, excessive dinnerware (the less plates and cups you own, the less there are to get dirty) and pick the kids special art work and throw the rest, if you can't bear to do that get a big plastic tub to keep it all in. Investing in some sort of filing cabinet to keep important papers etc in.
If you have a shed or garage tell hubby to keep his crap in there if he really needs to keep it but I'd encourage him to get rid of it because when you have a big family accumulating too much junk gets quickly overwhelming.
Once your house is cleaned out and organized hire yourself a cleaner if you can afford it, you'll find all this is much easier to keep on top of once all the clutter is gone!
Oh honey , I feel your pain ! You are a super mum , juggling 3 kids and one on the way you legend . I thought I had it tough with two . Anyway , I've been in the same situation as you , hubby wouldn't lift a finger even when I was pregnant , I was chasing a toddler heavily pregnant about to pop and he worked casually on and off . Even on his days off he would sit on his ass . Well one day I put my foot down , I stopped cleaning , stopped washing , and stopped giving a shit when he came home one day to me sitting on the couch with my little eating Oreos , house a mess , he had the cheek to ask what I had been doing lately , safe to say I gave him a good serve :) he realised if he didn't pick up his game , I would be leaving ! We haven't had a problem since . And we are all much happier ! Stand up for your self mumma , your worth more than that . I understand he works , but so do you ! 24/7 no breaks , if your child needs you at 2,3,4am your there . Set your rules , block off parts of the house from your toddler and take it one section at a time . Good luck Hun x