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Hi,
My husband and I have been together for 5years and married 4years. We are both young and he is normally a very happy go lucky person. In the last 4months he has become sad, cries at the drop of a hat, doesn't know what he wants at the moment, his favourite saying is 'what if' at the moment. He is doing full time work and university which he is getting top marks. He has been to see someone about it and that has seemed to help but hasn't taken any medication yet. He contacts me like 50 times a day even when he isn't meant to on the phone at work, tells me constantly that he needs me, misses me and loves me and that he needs to talk to me but we have been talking heaps and I've been giving him ideas to do and helping him talk through it logically. He wants me to find a new job that doesn't require weekend work so we can spend time together as he has a Monday to Friday job.Everything I do just seems to work for a day and then he returns to been sad.Im just wondering if there is any other suggestions anyone could offer so I could try and help him more ..
Thank you
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All you can do is encourage him to go back and see his doctor and psychologist.
You can't do anything else. I've been on both sides of the fence on this one. Don't respond to every text or every phone call. It's not good and in the long run will make his anxiety worse. Tell him in the morning, you are thinking of him and will check in at a set time. Then check in at that time.
His behaviour is kind of like OCD behaviour. The more you wash your hands, the more often you think you need to wash them. That's what he is doing with the texts etc.
Thank you for that, I've never thought of it that way. So I will definitely try and see how it goes. Thank you :)
This would be exhausting.
Is there a particular thing that has triggered him? He definitely needs to keep seeing someone about it.
Get him back to the doctor and ask for a mental health plan. This will allow your partner to receive free or Medicare subsidised psych visits.
If you have a community health centre, ask if you can make an appointment for him with one of their counsellors (free).
Also ask about medication.
And I agree. Tell your partner that he can call on his lunch break, but that's it.
Having a depressed partner can be so draining!!!! So look after yourself too.