Hi ladies , I am sitting here in cairns out at the beaches, I have tried mothers groups but feel there not for me . I have been here for quite some time and find it hard to find close friends , to do things with every one seems to stick to there own , my partners mates misses stick to them selfve no matter what I do , I always seem to be left out , sitting here watch bad mums I need to find friends like that . were do I find them I also work part time have kids and husband I like to camp out to dinners bbqs at the beach or home like to do spare of the moment things I need the type of friend that can come over with out having to plan it or I can just rock up some one with the same since of humor who can handel just a normal non judging person in my life I'm in my mid 30s . I also like to shop bowling movies just have no one in our life that does these things we need another couple in our life lol ...... Haha I need a BFF .
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I'm going to say it. That's a lot to hope for in another mum!
Vast majority of mums can not do spur of the moment.
Join a bowling league. Join another special interest group that suits you. Through that you will find a variety of friends that suit your interests and personalities.
If you want to do general social things try the meet-up app.
Having a BFF is not as common as you might think. It's unusual to have one friend that fits all your needs. If they do they usually burn out.
That's a lot of wants in a BFF, particularly that you can just rock up with without plans. Most mums don't have that freedom and would find that excessively needy.
I'd find a local group that interests you, as already mentioned a bowling league, lawn bowls even? And go from there. The key to keeping a BFF is not being needy and wanting to talk too often :)