Please don't lecture me, just wondering if anyone has ever suffered from physical exhaustion and how they worked through it?
I know I push myself well beyond what I should and my health suffers greatly from it but lately I've found I'm even worse than usual.
I had the flu a couple of weeks ago triggering asthma and it seems I've got a cold again. Every night I get into bed and lie down my entire body aches in relief and I'm out to it in minutes.
Cutting back what I do all day isn't an option and trust me I've pulled in all the help I can get. I've got people staying at my house at the moment which is causing my anxiety to go bat shit crazy (staying elsewhere isn't an option), I'm working up to 8 hour days in fast food (taking time off or reducing hours not an option) as well as trying to run a family and renovate a house.
All of this is taking its toll on me and my relationship with my partner (he's just as run off his feet as I am).
I guess I just need to hear people get through this stage and come through to the other side in one piece!
Oh and I should add other than the people staying over this has been my workload for about 2 years, I think I'm burning out 😩
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Honestly, I don't think people do get through this stage in one piece, as you say. I think they just get to the point where they realize they cannot go on this way and it's time to reevaluate their lives before they burn out, which it sounds like a distinct possibility for you at this point.
My grandmother always says "your health is your wealth"... I used to think that was a huge cliché and I was too young to worry about all that, I was only 26 - no one gets sick that young! I was all go, go, go.
Until last year.
I had several health scares - one condition I will deal with for life, luckily it's manageable but I had to learn to make my health a priority and how to look after myself. It definitely gave me a new perspective on a lot of things and I've learnt that I'm not superwoman, try as I might - I cannot do it all anymore!
I know you feel like you don't have any other options at the moment (perhaps you don't?), maybe something to strive for would be to create new options for yourself. Set up some goals to help achieve this. All work and no rest is not good for ones soul.
I also think at some point you and your partner need to be a bit more selfish (in the good way), you guys need to do what's best for YOU. You do what you need to do in order get some peace and relaxation in your lives, you deserve it and you need it!
All the best and I hope things start getting easier for you!
I worked 3 jobs for 3 years as a single mum, I started at 5 am in the morning with the third job ending at either 6pm or 10pm, and riding a push bike between jobs. I hardly ever saw my kids who had to fend for themselves in this time (all old enough) and my house was always trashed. I somehow managed to do a cert 3 as well. Now I've moved somewhere where there's not much work going and only work 4 hours a day and think to myself how the hell did I do it? Why did I do it?? Obviously for money, but looking back I didn't need 3 jobs. I thought I did, but I didn't.
It made more of a negative impact on my family than positive. I would never go back to exhausting myself for money again, totally not worth it.
My only advice is a trip to your gp to rule out any health issues so many things can cause exhausting and some are so easily treated like low iron levels, sleep apnea etc.
I was only working 5 hours a day and was struggling to drive home I was that tire, I was dozing off at school pick up or napping on the lounge when I got home, It turned low iron was the cause.
Good luck