Seems i am forever venting. Although i havnt written anything on my facebook for a while about my own issues and family. I swear my boys hate me 9 and 5. Well they love to shout it a lot when they have to do their chores or get in trouble for being incredibly naughty and not listening, I have a rent inspection tomorrow had 4 weeks notice so got everything upto scratch and i was sure i could maintain it. I was wrong everything is upside down again my husband leaves for work before the sun comes up and isnt home until late. He hates knowing the kids have been difficult to the point i just want to run away yet i dont. Today i wanted to kick my older boy out of the house but thats giving him what he wants so i send him to his room where he belts the crap out of the door and walls. He is currently sleeping on the floor because he broke his bed. I honestly feel like i have no friends or family that will actually understand everything. Just needed to get this out somewhere since no one i personally know actually gives a dam
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Have you had your eldest checked for ADHD or for being on the spectrum? That behaviour isn't normal.
Hang in there !!
A dr mentioned GDD at one point but never officialy tested him. I have always thought he is borderline aspergers but inwas told they dont diagnose that anymore.
I wonder why youre having such peoblems with your kids? Its either they need support, you do, or its a combination of you both together. Who are you seeing for help?
Start with your gp. Get a mental health plan for each of you and then referral to either paed, psych or both.
For my youngest he was diagnosed GDD but my.older boy everyone ignored my concerns for the longest time now im trying to get more help it doesnt seem like ill have much like. I will be paying for a private PAED and hoping to get answers
Good idea, and Im sorry everyones talking as though its all your job, it must be extremely hard to do it alone while your husbands absent and doesnt like to hear about it. I didnt know that was a choice!!!
Hugs to you, this doesn't sound normal. You need to seek help for your eldest, there are so many mums struggling alone out there with their kids, thinking they are a failure and it turns out their child has more going on than they realise. Just because it has become your normal, doesn't mean it is, please get some help. Even if there is nothing going on, at least get some strategies to help, you need support and a break! Can you get some me time on the weekend, send hubby out to the park with the kids? I hope things get better soon.
I know there is definitely more going on with him, gettinf help has been hell with no one seeing what i see and have seen from him. My younger boy is diagnosed GDD
You need to get your kids seen by a peadiatrician and a child psychologist. Get any disorders ruled out or in. Either way a psychologist can help you with parenting techniques and a behaviour plan.
You also need to speak to your GP about a mental health care plan for yourself.
I have been trying to get him help for years. But no one wants to listen because he was usualy a happy loving little boy and thats what everyone else saw.
This sounds incredibly difficult. I am sorry you're in this situation but I think there could be more to it with your boys.. seek some professional help. I hope that helps things because I couldn't imagine how difficult this is
There definitely is but no one is listening to me. He has been to counciling i have seen paeds etc im looking into private now.
This sounds incredibly difficult. I am sorry you're in this situation but I think there could be more to it with your boys.. seek some professional help. I hope that helps things because I couldn't imagine how difficult this is
My youngest is diagnosed GDD my older boy i have struggled getting help with for years, they only seen his loving side i miss his lovely personality. 😔