Hi Mummas, really looking for support and advice right now. I will try to keep this short.
My little girl has just turned 19 and 4 months ago moved out of home to live 6 hours away with her best friend. They have been friends since they were just babies my daughter being just 4 months older than this other girl.
I am struggling so bad not having her here anymore. She is doing really well, and we text every few days and talk sometimes 2x a week.
Early last year I became very sick and can no longer work, I spent 6 months in hospital. My little girl was going to become my full-time carer but I refused to let her, and so she set about moving on with her plans. She is currently working in a full-time position in aged care, and loves her job. I dont worry too much about her as her friends family are right there, so I know both girls are well looked over especially with her friends 3 big Brothers.
My problem is I am feeling so very lost, I dont have her here anymore, her birthday went and I felt such emptyness because it was the first time I have not been there.
I am not at all dealing with what I feel as a loss. I do not know what to do now Im not a mum mum. What do you do when your child grows up and leaves the nest? We were so very close and now I feel nothing but distance as she begins her life as an adult. Where do I go from here?
Deal with empty an nest
Deal with empty an nest
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You start building a life for yourself. Wether that be a variety of hobbies, study, finding a social group etc.
I know that can be a challenge with illness/disability, but now is the time.
I think you'd probably find this transition, that we all go through one way or another eventually easier if it wasn't for your illness.
Have you ever spoken to a psychologist or counsellor about the enotional toll having an illness has on you.
Are there support groups for people with your illness in your area?
Get a life. Sounds harsh but you know what I mean. You take up a hobby, you do the things you've always wanted to do but couldn't. Pat yourself on the back for raising a wonderful caring independent young person 👊🏼
See a counselor to work through your grief, there could be a few other issues underneath the empty nest syndrome too, but it's a very real thing, and the pain needs to be worked through xx