When my husband and I had our second child, we used my mothers name as my child's middle name. He had no issue with it. Now we are pregnant for the third and last time and my husband wants to use his deceased grandmothers name that he had never met as the next child's middle name. In normal circumstances this wouldn't bother me, but I hate the name , it's ancient and doesn't go with the flow of any of the first names we both like. I have suggested we use some of his mothers name or his living grandparent that he adores. But he is so adamant that since we used my mothers name as the middle one on our second child, that it's his choice. I am feeling a little territorial that I have carried the baby for 9months and I am the one giving birth. I should have the ultimate decision. I feel if I give in I will really regret it. Maybe if I knew we would be having more, I wouldn't have such an issue. But this will be our last.
How has everyone overcome when you can't agree on a name??
Can't agree on a baby middle name
Can't agree on a baby middle name
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No he doesnt get a right. So you agreed on your mums name as a middle name. Him having free choice wasnt part of that deal was it? you both still need to agree on it. If its really a no, then its back to looking again and deciding together.
Personally I'd go with it, for whatever reason it means some importance to him and I'd want to respect that. Honestly when do you call them by their full name? Not many people would know my middle name because it's just never used. If it was the first name then it'd definitely bother me but middle name (for me) who cares.
I dont particularly love my youngest daughter's middle names, she's named after both her great grandmothers. It meant so much to the GG's and my partner so it was worth it. And honestly, how often do we use our middle names lol.
I dont think one parent should get more of a say than the other though, it's one of those things you really need to agree on!
You need to be happy with the name imo
Unless it was ultimately an extremely special person, I don't think you should have to settle
Drop it for now. You push that baby out, he's in awe of you, win, you get to name the baby ?
Right so I can beat this times a thousand ??
We have a son and could barely agree on a name but in the end came up with one Adam. So middle name, wanted it to be after hubbys dad, Peter but that would make the poor buggars initials APE and we thought no no, can't do that. So FIL middle name is James, I fought tooth and nail not to have that, it's my exs name and not only that but his brother is named Adam, wayyyyy to much of a coincidence!!
In the end I let hubby have it his way, does not bother me at all now, I don't even relate the two names and we don't ever even use his middle name! So glad we I went with something to make hubby happy and pop too.
This being said I have full rights over next babies name, no exceptions, can be Timbuktu and he can't say a peep!!
In the end it's just a name ??
I am not a fan of our girls middle name.
Our boy has a past grand parent of mines name, I am thinking of changing it to my past dad's name.
Our girl unfortunately got the past grand parents name.
I will let her change it when the time comes.
But having said that no one calls her, her given name which is a stunning name but she likes the short version.
Pick your battles I can't see the use in bickering over a name that is never used.