more of a vent than asking for advice. I have never been a domestic goddess, my house is rarely the degree of clean I prefer. However some days I just can't do any more work. I hate that people use busy as a badge of honour but with 2 boys, working and studying I find my days are full 7 days a week. I also am a little bit lazy but that's for another day lol. My ex mum in law who I adore paid for a cleaner a couple of months ago and it was fantastic. I look around now and see it's gone go crap again. I do realise it's a first world problem . I can't afford to get a cleaner in but hate that I'm not good at the domestic thing. I only have 2 kids and I'm overwhelmed, what about bigger families? My boys do help when I ask, they take the bins out, wash dishes, clean their rooms.
Anyone else an undomestic goddess like me?
Edit to say, we are all happy little Vegemite, fed and clothed well. Thanks.
Undomesticated goddess
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You know what, I think you are overly hard on yourself.
I don't know anyone who could keep on top of housework, two children, work and study! That's quite a few balls you are juggling.
I think the modern day mum is expected to do far more than the mums of generations ago. Yeah sure they had more manual labour, but our grandmothers kids were kicked out of the house all day and were only allowed back in for meals! There kids had about 4 toys so there was no mess to clean up.
There was certainly no expectation of working, studying and raising kids.
My situation is the same as yours except I have two girls instead. I also work and study. I really struggle to keep on top of things as well and it stresses me so much. So you definitely aren't alone! I think as long as it's not dirty (like food scraps on the floor, maggots around etc) that is ok...things like toys and books on the floor are fine...you have to expect that with kids. Just remember your house is not a show home, it's a place for your kids to play and learn...and yes they will make it messy doing so :P
I'm a stay at home Mum (study online too) and my house is pristinely clean when our rental manager comes for an inspection so precisely 4 times a year ?
Obviously I'd like my house to look like it was fresh out of an interior design magazine but that's just not realistic with kids. I always have toys and books floating around, washing to fold- seriously this is the bane of my existence, clean dishes on the rack, an array of paper work, kids art or newsletters and I'm always tripping over random shoes lol.
As long as your house isn't a biohazard who cares I say!
Good housekeeping is just not my strength! I'm a good cook, I can sew, I love my kid, I volunteer for the local playgroup.
I'm a SAHM and I only have one kid and a dog and my house is constantly messy. I'm pregnant with no 2 and have no idea how I'll cope! But, my kid is fed, happy and healthy. We eat healthy nutritious food and a great little family.