Hi IM's
Please no negative comments.
I have a son 7 my partner has a 5 & 3 yr old. We have beem together 3 months & have just fallen pregnant.
This is huge. We both don't want another broken home kids to other patners its just to messy.
So I'm after terminating information what's the first step.
Today I've seen my doc & had my blood tests done.
If my partner & i were together longer then sure yes we'd keep it but we are still trialing our relationship.
Yes i understand women are out there who can't conceive & 10 yrs ago i was in that boat. I'm just trying to do what is best for me & my partner. Don't get me wrong i really want another child but i hardly know my partner.
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It will depend on what state you are in.
Otherwise Marie stopes clinics run in a number of states.
www.drmarie.org.au
I'm in Melbourne
Then contact the Marie stopes clinics. It's very easy to organise. The link is in the response above
Would you consider using the pill as opposed to a procedure? It may be less confronting and you can do it in the comfort of your own home - no poking or prodding. It just depends how far along you are though.
Good luck with everything, making decisions like this are very, very tough. Make sure you look after yourself <3
I did think about the pill. Or should i get the morning after pill. I think I'm about 4-6 weeks.
It's too late for the morning after pill. That has to be taken within 48hourd of having sex.
Your GP will know who to refer you to. There is a medical or surgical abortions which you have can depend on how far along you are.
It's probably still earlier enough to take the abortion pill (morning after pill is useless as that is to stop conception). I know someone who has had both the pill and medical abortion, the pill was much more relaxing and you didn't have to walk into a clinic, see someone face to face, sit there with other people waiting etc. The pill was quite a relaxing experience, from what I know it can be painful - quite like extreme menstrual cramps but you can do it comfortably at home.
Just realising that the sack has to come out & today I've been an emotional mess about it.
Would anyone else in my position keep this baby. Arrhh I'm in 2 minds.
If you're not 110% don't go ahead with it, you don't want to live a life of guilt or regret. I'd suggest seeking out a counsellor and discussing your thought process and see how you feel after talking about it. Good luck ????
If it was me yes I would keep it. Because I had a bad abortion that I regret everyday. I couldn't go through that again. You can always adopt baby out but you can't take back an abortion
Do what's right for you, no one can answer that for you. Me personally, to be honest, I wouldn't have the baby.
To be completely honest if i was in this situation i wouldn't hesitate to terminate. But chat to your gp or speak to your state sexual health clinic. Not sure about melbourne but in sa, two doctors needed to sign off and i had the option to speak to a counsellor if needed. There is no pressure to go through with the procedure unless you are 100% commited to your decision. Good luck
No advice but big hugs ❤
How far along are you?
I'm in NSW
I was 4 weeks pregnant when I had mine. It was quite an easy process. I just rang a local abortion clinic, made an appointment and went ahead with it. They were really nice and very professional. It was over in a few short hours.
I had people try to talk me out of it but like me, only you know what's right for you and your family.
Best wishes xx
I have had an abortion and if it was me no I would not have a baby to someone I barely knew. Coparenting with my kids dad is so hard at times and my kids miss out because of it. If I had more it wouldnt be like that it would be with someone I know well and knows me well enough to give it a good shot and at least I would want to be able to feel safe in the knowledge that if anything were to happen to me they are all my kid has.
Its up to you of course, your heart and mind will tell you whats right for you.
Big hugs hun this is a sucky position to be in .
My only advice would be to seek a counselor and talk it through if your having uncertain thoughts ! It's going to be an emotional ride which ever way you go! And the choice is yours alone don't let anyone choose for u xo (your body , your emotional wellbeing , )
At 4-5 weeks the sac would pass like a large blood clot . ..
Either way your going to be ok xo
Go have a surgical abortion. It will take an hour and you feel like you are having a heavy period for a week. While you are there get a script for the pill and start taking it asap.
You know you dont want the baby and it is ok to have second thoughts after reading the posts.
I had an abortion similar situation and hsve no regrets.
I was on the pill. I was being careful. Just unlucky or lucky I'm not sure. But thanks for your advice