I don't even know where to start.
I've suffered from anxiety depression for a long time but recently I've had to start on antidepressants. Everything has really gone down hill since Christmas. I've had a sick child and lost work due to my sick child (I was only casual) I'm just struggling with life from day to day. I have no family here I live over 1000km away from them and only support I have is some dam amazing friends (the best friends I've ever had). I'm torn between staying where I am with the amazing friends or moving closer to family(my home town, but I also was sad there) My kids love it here and so do I other then my dam depression (it makes me so cranky that I got this bad)
I surpose what I'm asking is what would you do. Would you stay in a town you love but be away from family or move to where family are.
Would you stay or go
Would you stay or go
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I would also ask myself where is my best access to mental health care services (being close to a psychologist is important for me) and will my child have the same access to medical care?
Having a sick child myself I know where we live can make a differences in services. Where we live now we are 20 minutes away maximum from excellent medical support who are specialists in my sons care. Depending on where we were to move to, my son would not receive the same medical care he does now, or we would have to travel long distances which would be a stresser.
Also are there services you can link into where you live that you aren't already using. Such as calling the Commonwealth Carelink Centre 1800 052 222. I have found this service extremely helpful. I've used them to do some housework when I was overwhelmed, I've used them for respite, I've used them to watch my sick child so I could catch up on some sleep.
And I'd also think about cost of living expenses, rental market etc
If it's a do or die - have to make a decision now, then consider all options including what your family brings to the table. What if you packed up and moved 1000km back but none of them helped out anyway? You'd be stuck with no friends and a family that may as well not be there. Or are your family really supportive and while your friends are great for a good time they're not really into getting stuck in and helping out so on that front you'd be better off at home right now?
If you don't have to decide yet, I'd stay where you are and give the pills time to kick in before even trying to make such a big decision.
My family are extremely supportive and I miss them like crazy. My lease is up at the end of the month and it's something I want to think seriously about. Only thing keeping me here are my friends and that my kids are happy at school. I know I can just say to my mum that I need a night and I could stay at her place or she would have the kids pending she isn't working. I know my friends have said if I need help don't hesitate to ask for help, but I feel like a burden on them with this terrible down moment I am having