I guess this isn't really a question. more just a 'seeking reassurance' because nerves have set in.
We have just found out that our visa's have been approved. We leave in early August to move to New York, with no plans to ever come back.
I am taking my four children out of their amazing school and sports teams, and asking them to reduce their entire little lives to a few boxes and suitcases.
We are leaving behind out families, friends, and everything we have ever known.
We are so very incredibly excited! Even the children are excited. Our friends are excited for us, our extended families are excited for us.
My immediate family hasn't spoken to us since we told them it had come through.
They have been very against the whole situation since we first mentioned that DH had been offered a job overseas and their dislike of the situation has quelled into full blown anger and toxicity at the very idea that we might dare to break away.
Their upset seems to stem from the fact that they feel that they have a right to have access to my children when ever they want it. The problem is, that even though we live locally, they almost never see the children as it is.
Admittedly, that was part of the appeal of moving 16,000km away. At least I wouldn't have to deal with upset children who have had promises made and then broken at the 11th hour and 59th minute.
I guess, now that it's all happening and we are actively getting rid of what we don't plan on taking (which is almost everything), we have sold one car and our house is on the market, their vocal dislike of it is niggling at me.
I find it hard to be excited with someone who is supposed to supportive of me being so vocally opposed to what I'm doing.
I think I just need some reassurance that this is something exciting, that making the decision that we think is best for our families is the best thing to do, even when others don't agree.
I see this as a fantastic opportunity, one that so few people never get and there are so many opportunities for both ourselves and our children in the future.
Someone please just tell me I am not completely crazy?
6 Replies
You're not crazy!!
You're making a big move, even if you had their support there would be nerves! It's not a big risk, Australia will always be here and there will always be houses. Good luck, you only live once ?, I would be incredibly excited too! Such an awesome experience for the kids.
Acknowledge that the family that is having issues are actually feeling like they are loosing control of you. Where you live now, they feel like they have control over you, when you move they won't have any.
See it like leaving a abusive partner.
Of course moving to NY is an AMAZING opportunity.
OMG how exciting for you all!!! Leave them to their pathetic petty lives, move on and watch your family blossom.
Maybe one day they'll grow up and think about others before themselves.
You're not crazy....bugger them!!!
Go and have the time of your lives!!!
I'm so jealous...?
If I could leave Australia I would,
It is amazing, and if all those involved with the move are on board and excited about it, then that's all that matters. You, hubs and kids.
I'd suggest avoiding any negative ppl and talk to other travellers, ex pats, etc. See if there's a FB group of Aussie families living in NY and get amongst your tribe.
I sold up everything and travelled Aus with my young family few years ago, then settled 2000km away from our FOOs. Not everyone got it, and they didn't get a say. My mum is a master at laying a guilt trip on, but we couldn't NOT do it, as much as its scary and at times overwhelming all the shit you have to organise.... But OMG IT'S NEW YORK!!!!!!