Touchy Subject
Hey, just a quick question if I can get some advice from other parents, as i don't know what to do.. My 6 year old daughter and I were chatting about her bestie, and in that conversation she told me that they do naughty stuff together( her bestie is a boy) I asked her what they were doing, and she said he asked her to pull down her pants and he has touched her - the boy in question is 6 as well. I don't know if I should be alarmed or if it's just a child's curiosity, or if something sinister might happen/happened. I've told her that if he asks again to come and tell me straight away or tell the teacher if it happens on the school grounds. To my knowledge this has happened a couple of times. Since finding out I'm very strict with playtime and we've had Minimal contact with the family. I've spoken to the mother about another issue, and her son has denied everything. What would be my course of action? Try and talk to the parents, avoid them all together? HELP! I've never had to deal with anything like this, I'm thinking of my child's best interest!
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Yes kids this age are very curious. I remember a bum sniffing incident when I was 6 and you show me yours I show you mine incident.
But it needs to be stopped.
We have a rule when kids come to play that they stay in the lounge room, and outside. I don't allow bedrooms because I can't supervise them. If kids are over I need fi be able to see them.
I would absolutely report to the school. The school can have a chat to the entire class with out making a thing out of it. They may also monitor the child in question at break times.
I would say its just child curiosity, I remember being the same as a kid and my daughter and nephews have been the same as well. You just chat to them and tell them that nobody is allowed to see or touch that area except for them.
I'm a teacher and I would say you need to call the principal and request a meeting asap. Not necessarily for him to be be punished but just so they know and can keep and eye on the situation
After a similar situation with my daughter (6 at the time as well) I simply had a chat with her that it was inappropriate play and that she wasn't aloud to be playing like that anymore. Thankfully also it happened at a very good friends house so we were able to actually talk about it properly. I would suggest doing the same in having a little convo with your daughter saying that type of play isn't for kids (in a way so she doesn't feel like she's in trouble)