I have a so called friend who has been my friend for about 14yrs and I've noticed that several times she has lied to me about talking to my bf and I have seen her conversations with him. To me it seems what she is saying is flirting with him, sends kisses (xXxX) messages him everyday and she also has a bf. She knows it annoys me and knows I don't like it but yet still continues and still lies. I don't know whether I'm reading to much into it, I'm jealous,insecure, paranoid, she's doing it on purpose, she wants attention or I'm right in thinking she wants him. Any advice?
Friend and boyfriend
Friend and boyfriend
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Why is your boyfriend messaging with your friend?
She added him on Facebook after meeting him and he's the type person who won't ignore someone if they talk to him even though I think he should
Thats not cool, theres no excuse, if youre not comfortable thats all she should need to know. If she wont respect that, turn to your boyfriend to sort it out from his end. Easy enough to delete her and you need to take a big step back from her too.
She isn't your friend if she can't respect your boundaries.
I've never felt the need to message my friends boyfriend on a daily basis, EVER.
I have loads of male friends who are in relationships I have never sent them messages that end in kisses. I've never needed to message them on a daily basis.
I don't even message my brother in laws more than a few times a year!
It takes two to tango - your boyfriend is just as much guilty in this instance if he is replying. If it's making you feel insecure or anything of the sort you need to tell your boyfriend to stop replying to her.
I'm so sorry your feeling this way. I'd perhaps bring it up another time and just be a little firm and say it's just not appropriate and you'd like it to stop ? Hope this helps xxx
Have you spoken to your bf about it? Maybe he just responds because it's your friend and he wants to be polite and thinks he will get in trouble from you for ignoring her? I would chat to him and get rid of her, good luck!
Thank You everyone. I just wasn't sure if I was being paranoid or not.
No you are not paranoid! She knows you don't like her messaging him and she continues to do it..she doesn't seem to have enough respect for you to stop so I would tell her boyfriend and see what he thinks..also get rid of her she's not a true friend. I would never message my friends boyfriends..(except for one but he happens to be my cousin haha) and I would be having a go at your boyfriend for messaging her back.. did he tell you about the messages or did you just come across them yourself? Tell him to block her as well as you or get rid of both of them
Block her from his facebook and block her number from his phone if she's texting too. If she uses a different number (aka fucking persistent bitch), he'll have to change his number.
This is not friendship. Personally, I couldn't be friends with someone like that and I would have broken the moles fingers long ago.
I'd make her squirm ?
I'd message her some random crap, and you bet your arse if she didn't give me xXxX then I'd be all up in her shit like "what so you send kisses to my partner but I'm your friend of × amount of years and you won't send them to me? You're a hoe!"
But I'm a petty bitch and hate back stabbers, fake friends and hoes that try shit with my partner, so probably don't take my advice ?
I am extremely close to my best friends husband. We text (not every day) quite a lot and can be quite affectionate with each other. She knows we are just really close friends and always says she has no reason to be jealous