DV and Child Kinder Enrolment

Anon Imperfect Mum

DV and Child Kinder Enrolment

My daughter will be attending kinder in 3 years time and I have to enrol her in a years time. I left a DV relationship 2 years ago and my daughter has only seen her Dad twice due to manipulation. I will not let him see her again. There was an IVO in place, but it expired last year. What happens in a way of kinder enrolment applications, signatures, etc? He likes to manipulate to get something in return and I would much rather not contact him about her enrolments. Anyone been in this situation? There are no current orders in place, no family court involvement either. HELP!!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

You can enrol your child with only one parent on forms, however you will need another emergency contact.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

The enrolment form yes, but what about the the form you fill out when your child has been accepted into the chosen kinder? Won't the kinder form ask for father's authorisation to?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No. It's not a passport. I think that's the only time you'd be asked to get other parent's permission, if you wanted to take the child overseas.

Plenty of sole/single parents around, and even if married, they should only require one parent's signature and contact details.

Your emergency contacts don't have to be family, just a person (your child knows and trusts) living close enough to collect child if needed. I have no family nearby so I put down friends/neighbours. Never needed them in 15 years of kinder/school

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Dont put his name on the enrolment if his name isnt on the enrolment he can not do anything including picking her up.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

As mentioned he cannot pick her up unless on the form so just leave that part blank or add your mother or partner depending on your situation plus two more emergency contacts. Better yet I'm assuming you have family court papers that state that "the child lives with mum..." This means you have full custody and should he try to pick her up you will be notified and asked if its OK...

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No I don't have family court paper's. I haven't been to family court. I have government paper's that say that she is in my 100% care. Enrolment form is ok, but the form the kinder gives you to fill out once you have been accepted may require the father's authorisation too?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

My sons dads name as never been on any school enrolment forms. I've just always left fathers details blank. Same as hospital documents. Nobody has ever questioned it.

I always had my mum or sister as the emergency contact.,

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Hospital documents? As in Birth Certificate?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No, as in when my son has needed surgery etc.

I just write n/a in the fathers section and it's never ever been questioned

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Do not list him on any enrolments. How will he even know what kinder she is attending? Hopefully he's moved on in 3 years time and you can breathe easy.

In the meantime,can you get the necessary court orders in place for when she is attending school. I know in Vic (few years ago now) we had to list authorised pick up people for kinder. Everyone knew everyone too (small town)

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