My son is 9 and has a genuine fear of he colour pink! Yesterday my daughter was unwell so I left the dishes undone and went to bed. This morning my son made himself breakfast and cried because he had to use his sisters Pink bowl. I mean sobbed uncontrollably. I asked him what is so bad about pink? He said he just can't keep looking at it as he eats!
I felt horrible but I still made him use the pink bowl. I am concerned and unsure if this is a normal reaction. Is it?
I'm not concerned he might be gay, although that might be the reason for this behavior. I am very "open" and very happy if he's gay he's gay... He's also an awesome human...
I am concerned he feels he has to hide any feminine side he has.
His "father" is a D*** and puts a lot of pressure on him to be strong and manly and is quite the opposite to me. His Father does not live with us and is around roughly 1-2 times a month. My son worries about his dad and is having counseling to deal with it.
Is this normal for a child who wants their fathers approval? How can I help my boy?
My 9 year old son is afraid of pink
My 9 year old son is afraid of pink
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It may be something he has seen at school or picked up anywhere really. Maybe he showed an interest in pink and someone has teased him about it?
I think just reassuring him that pink is a wonderful colour and can be used for many different things can help. Tell him how pinks are pigs and they are both boys and girls. Try and make connections. Start serving your daughter blue and don't make anything "hers" or "his" based on colour :)
From what you've said towards the end of your post makes me think it is for his fathers approval. His dad possibly might have said something about the colour which has made him react that way. I'd just keep doing what you're doing, assure him that feminine things are FINE if he enjoys/likes those things but also don't push the case.