Hellooooo sisterhood! i just need some friendly advice on what to do about so called 'mates' i recently found out two of them have been saying horrible things about me behind my back (only know this cos her brother showed me the msgs via screenshot - and also screen shots she send him that another friend had said about me) i know i may get abit annoying as we all do, but the things that were said really hurt, i havent said anything to them because well all 12 kids (my kids and including their's) are great friends, and i dont want to cause any drama, but i also in away want to cut them out of our lives, we r between the ages of 35 and 40, i never expected for these 'women' to be so cruel, but yet so nice and kind to my face, i could never say a bad word bout any of my mates, guess im looking for some help?! should i keep them in our lives and hope the bitching stops? Ask them but cause more drama or just cut them out all together?
I have done nothing but try support them just to get it thrown back in my face!!
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Back away from them, if your kids want playmates still, let them have play dates but don't be involved other than a polite hello and goodbye and I hope everyone behaved themselves.
You don't want to confront them because let's face it, none of us have the energy for the kind of 13 year old drama that would follow!
I would just have the bare minimum contact with them regarding kids play dates etc but other than that not be overly friendly with them. If they notice something is wrong and ask you about it just use a quote from one of their own txts so they know that you know. There's no need to confront them about it and contribute to the childishness. Just be civil and I'm sure they'll end up feeling pretty foolish.
I would just wipe them for good.. depending on the ages of your children it would be hard for them to just leave their friends but if they are babies im sure they wont remember and they can make new friends to play with..if they are school age children then maybe they can see each other at school (if they go to the same school) i personally wouldn't want ky child goong to someones house with out me who is bitching about me.. who knows if they will say something to your child or your child may even over hear something
I would start finding other friends and socials so you dont feel isolated if you say something and they cut you out completely.
They sound like assholes not friends
Why did the brother show you? What did he have to gain from doing that?
Are these 'friends' who you would gossip and bitch with about other people? I've been in the situation where I didn't want to be like that anymore, and I realised that if they're talking about other 'friends' behind their backs,they'd be doing the same to me.
Sit on it for a few days and see how you feel, regardless if you call them out or not, you will naturally take a step back from them