This may be a touchy subject. Firstly In no way do I snoop or care about what my ex does... I have my own partner so whatever he does in his free time is none of mv business... but we have children together So I am a little concerned.
When we were together he linked his bank account to my email so I get emails sent to me. I've told him about his one two occasions to change it over to his email. Which he hasn't.
For the past 6 or so months I've been getting emails from the bank with transactions. At first I looked at one 6 months ago and noticed it said in the info of the transaction to a third party "drugs"
The description is The name of the drug and he does have history of using drugs.
Every week or so I'll get an email with the description title about drugs to so and so.
I don't know why he would be So stupid to do that but now I know he's buying or doing drugs... on a very regular occasion.... I don't know how to over look that when we have children together.
Do I say something? Or tell him to change his bank details to his email so he realises I can see What he's been up to by his transactions???
What would you do in this very odd situation. I'm worried for my children's wellbeing also but I don't want to cause conflict without know the full extent of the details.
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Do you have any mutual friends that you can have a chat to about it?
Part of me thinks he is playing you, because who would state what the transactions are for? It's the most stupid thing I've ever heard! Most drug transactions are in cash (yes I do have personal experience). And no drug dealer would want a bank transaction showing up on there records. Because EVidence!
So either he has found the worlds stupidest dealer OR he is playing a game with you.
Keep evidence of the emails, speak to child protection, speak to the cops! Don't ignore this because you have a right to be concerned, as its your children's safety!
I'm sure he wouldn't be that stupid to use the description drugs in his transaction info. I know when I send money to my sisters & brothers and Vice versa we also put stupid descriptions in, sometimes we write things like money for drugs, stripper pole etc etc
Poster here - no the info will say "crack money" and I know he has a history of drugs before kids. Crack to be exact aswell.
Speak to child protection etc