I understand every pregnancy is different and every woman carries differently. However im constantly getting told "wow your so big" "are you sure there is only one in there" "your dates must be wrong" im currently 27 weeks pregnant but the size of an average 40 week belly. This is my second pregnancy and im rather short in height and not a very big build. Its getting to the point that all the "your so big" comments are getting to me. I know they shouldn't and i should just smile and nod and say yeah and laugh it off....but its happening daily, like every time i leave the house, from people who know me to complete strangers....i kinda just want to walk around in a big shirt that reads..."yes im only 27 weeks, yes theres only one in there, yes my dates are right and no you cant touch my belly"....does anyone else get like that, either your carrying really small or your carrying really big and all the comments get to be a bit much sometimes....or is it just me and my hormones haha
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I carried really big, they checked for triplets!
Anyway I'm a bit unusual, because I loved talking about my pregnant body. I suppose I'm a bit of an attention whore or something. I just loved talking about it. I know I'm not the norm though.
I get the opposite. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and get "your belly is so small". I also had this with my first pregnancy and it usually doesn't bother me. The only time it does bother me is when I get told to eat more!
I'm the opposite to you, when I get pregnant I loose weight and carry small. My last pregnancy I got to 30 weeks without people noticing. They only noticed my shrinking frame. By 40 weeks I was just an average size pregnant lady. My best friend on the OH was like you and she just kept growing she and the baby just had a lot of fluid around them. I would joke about 2 but I didn't mean it, it was just a shock for me to see a belly only hold one and grow so much so quickly. I don't think people are being malicious,or purposely trying to hurt your feelings. Seeing a pregnant belly just brings joy and life into a conversation. They're really interested in how your feeling and how you're going. I love feeling a pregnant belly but I always ask before I touch and I only ever touch friends bellies.
I agree. It's not malicious. People are just excited about new life and remember how exciting it was for them.
It's like when someone asks how your baby sleeps. It's not a judgement on wether a baby sleeps all night or not. It's because the person remembers what having sleep deprivation and babies was like. It's an area of 'commonality' that a conversation and bonding can occur over.
When people asked how my babies slept, I used to say like an old alcoholic. Needed a bottle to knock them out and only woke when they pissed or shat themselves. ?
I will never understand why women get upset about this. They are not saying you have gotten fat, they are saying your belly is big. even when I look back at photos of me pregnant I can't believe how big I was. I think that's when it stems from. No one is being mean when they say it. I don't really see what the point of getting upset is, you can't change it and people will keep saying it, especially if you are carrying large. Just enjoy it
I'm short, I think short people's bellies protrude more because we aren't stretched out as much. Don't let these comments ruin this amazing time for you, easier said than done I know when you are hormonal, but try to not to let it get you down.
My third pregnancy was like that I was only 30 weeks and people (strangers) were asking if I was over due, making comments about how it wont be long till baby arrives I used to laugh and say yeah 10-12 weeks to go now and when i was 37 weeks I was asked how many bubs i was carrying I was asked so often and when I stated was only one little girl they'd say oh wow must be a big baby ... She was born 6pound 5ounces and in tiny prem clothes she was such a petite tiny bubba ?
People can't seem to help themselves when they see a pregnant belly. They have to comment. Be it big or small, they have to comment! As hard as it is hearing it, try and block it out, remember you are a raging hormone machine right now and that they don't mean to be rude or hurtful. Feet just naturally seem to end up in mouths when talking to pregnant ladies! <3
I'm 29 weeks and my mil refuses to believe my dates are correct! Its so frustrating. I'm also short and all belly, I was getting the oh your carrying twins, look how big you are, from 9 weeks i had family saying your got wide so quick your having a boy. It got to the point of say I've seen my ultrasound there is definitely only one baby, also my dates have been confirmed as correct. I told them its a girl and wow the disappointment of being wrong was obvious lol
First of all
Congratulations
Second
My gf is 17weeks pregnant and showing like she is 6 months
We get all the same questions
Its annoying
We feel like saying yes there is 2
And yes we r nearly ready to pop
Just breathe
And hang in their