Hi beautiful mummas,
Needing some advice on something that's bothering me lately. I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant and my partner and my 'intimate time' is basically non existent.
I've tried talking to him about it but the excuse is always the same "it's to hot" or "I'm tired".
I'm a very sexual person and am feeling a little hurt. I've started taking it personally in that he's not attracted to me anymore now that I have this ever growing belly.
No I'm not always in the mood either but you do it don't you? To make the other happy? To keep the spark alive?
He mentioned last night that with my belly growing it makes it more difficult to be intimate and it's not always comfortable.
How can I fix this. I need physical affection.
Is he scared he will hurt me or the baby? I don't get it. This isn't his first time being a dad either.
Please help me!!!! Xxx
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Firstly this is really, really common. This isn't about you personally, so please try and remind yourself.
Pregnancy is an adjustment for the men as well as women. And yeah for some people pregnancy sex takes a lot of work. Pregnancy + hot weather equals very uncomfortable sex!
Plus it's not so easy for guys to fake it, remember that thing called an erection? It's not always as easy to maintain.
And yes lots of guys are worried about hurting there child or find the penis near there baby thing icky, no matter how irrational it seems!
Does it have to be penatrive sex, can you both stimulate each other with your hands maybe? Or even just a cuddle, holding hands etc.
Try and look at how else your partner shows you he cares. Is he polite to you, does he say nice things, does he pull his weight around the house? This phase in your lives will pass and you and your relationship can survive 10 months without sex as long as you both find ways to connect.
When i was pregnant with my first the midwife explained it as your vagina is the carport and your cervix is the garage door behind the door is ur baby things can come in and out the garage without disturbing the rest of the house.
Laying on your side, doggy style, pillows under your stomach for support. There are so many positions you can do while pregnant. No missionary is not the best position and the others involve him doing the work or you doing the work. But I'm suck a sexual person I found a way to make it work.
I know too well how you feel. I'm also 28 weeks pregnant and him being "too tired" is driving me crazy.
My cooter is starving for attention ?
But honestly, I just started dealing with it myself. Unfortunately then theres no intimacy but at least I get something!
We've had sex 3 times in 2 weeks, usually its double that in a week ?