Oh man am I struggling.
After three years of pursuing a life of drugs and crime my daughters father has decided he wants in on her life. He was extremely abusive, emotionally and physically and is now in rehab.
During his absence I have found myself the love of my life who has accepted my daughter as his own and has supported and loved her to his full potential.
Since my ex has made contact we have gone through mediation, anglicare (supervised visitation) and now he is seeing her 4 hours every second weekend whist at his relatives house.
All is running smoothly, respect between all parties, no issues of concern.
Now here is why I'm struggling.
Rant ahead please don't hate.
He is her absolute favorite, she even told me "***** is my favorite daddy" I know she's only four and of course she is going to love someone who showers her with hot chips and lollies especially when we force feed her broccoli and brussel sprouts.
He is the fun guy and we are the law in-forcers.
Please someone just tell me it gets easier?!? I know it's not about favorites but I'm really feeling unappreciated and unloved
(i know how rediculous that sounds) but it's how i feel.
Who else has been through this? What was it like for you? I need to connect with people who have gone through the same, just reading some replies will help.
Thank you for taking the time to read.
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When shes really hurt she will still cry for mummy. Of course shes going to like it more with him especially if theirs no rules and lots of junk food. Shes only 4 and they only think in the now. When she gets older she will realise who is always their to look after her and pick up the peices when things go bad. My youngest (3) tells me he hates me when he gets sent to his room for bad behaviour but still comes back for cuddles at the end of the day.
Yes. Not the same as your aituation but i did everything im exhausted and he would rock up once every few months, all financially on me, my house my food my nappies, he would get one on one time with child which i would murder for. And she would tell me daddy has lots of money. Daddy buys me things. Dadd buys me macdonalds (in the short time hes there - thanks!!)
i know you know youre doing the hard parenting but it doesnt stop it from totally hurting.