Am i the only one who stresses about my kids dying?
If i am driving the car I constantly think about what would happen if we crashed or someone ran into us and what I would do to try save my kids.. if my kids are near a pool i cant relax to the point of my 3year old having a sleepover at my mums, i called her at 9pm to make sure the pool gate was shut.. I got up my MIL for giving my 1 year old a piece of ice to suck on.. I constantly think of scenarios in my head on the what ifs.. I dont have the money or the kid free time to see a psychologist.. I know every parent worrys about their kids safety but i feel if i told someone what the details of the what ifs they would think im crazy.. I cant stop reading all the tragic articles that pop up online and that gives me even more awareness to dangers.. I know in my head what i think is over the top and my family calls me a stresshead but surely other mums do it too?
Constant fear and anxiety about kids dying
Constant fear and anxiety about kids dying
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Life Lessons, Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Kids
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Yes we all worry but I think this is at another level. Speak to your GP there are free counselling and psychologist options that you can use. You can take your kids if you have to.
You don't have to live your life in this much fear and eventually your anxiety will rub off on your kids. Even when we think we are sheilding them from it they pick up on it.
Yes, worrying about your kids' safety is completely normal for all parents. When it becomes a problem is when it's becoming intrustive, which it sounds like it is. You say you don't have the money or kid-free time to seek assistance but it sounds like you do need to speak to someone who can give you strategies to deal with these intrusive thoughts. You would probably qualify for a mental health care plan which entitles you to some Medicare subsidised appointments with a psychologist (I would recommend looking for someone who specialises in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to help you address the thoughts you're having). Surely someone can take the kids for an hour or so per week or fortnight so you can take care of yourself. Good luck IM.
I worried like that too. I thought, I can't keep going on like this. My child won't have a life. So I deleted anything and everything on my Facebook, news links, etc. I kept watch of my kids but wasn't loud about it. You probably are making yourself worry too much, your scared of the guilt, in case you miss something or get blamed. But accidents happen. You could 'what if' about every single thing. But if it is going to happen, it will and no amount of worrying or bubble wrapping will stop it. Your allowed to worry, your allowed to take precautions. You probably don't have the time or finances to deal with a broken arm right now? Is that what you are worried about? Is someone in your life making you feel incompetent? Maybe just do some research into Mum's who worry all the time, if you can't see someone.But it is suffocating you as a parent, you should be enjoying these moments, not assessing them. :)
I worry a lot, I've always been a worrier. I do however wonder if I would worry as much if I had more then one child. My little man is my life and I wouldn't want to live without him, this makes me a bit of a helicopter mum. ? And I'm sure I'm judged for this.