Very depressed and can't stop crying at the moment. I'm a mother of 3 monkeys under 10. I have acquaintances and no real close friends and everyone that sees me thinks I'm happy, because that is what I show. I feel a burden to others as they probably have their own personal things going on and busy lives.
For those awesome mothers whom may have been where I am now, how did you get through this? Thanks in advance.
How to not feel a burden?
How to not feel a burden?
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Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression
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Nobody is a burden. Everyone gets a turn at needing support and help. You might need support and help now, but when you feel well again you will be able to help others. You give back later. It's the way the world works. You might not give back in the exact same way they gave to you at the time but that's ok.
Life is like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. When you join AA you need a lot of help and support at the start, but as you get better and further in the program you gain strength and start to offer support to people who have recently joined.
How you give back when you are feeling better is up to you. How I give back to people differs from person to person. It might be in the form of childcare, when a friend was in an emergency situation. It might be in the form of cash, when a friend found herself in a tough spot financially. It might be in the form of emotional support for a friend going through a breakup. The point is what goes around comes around, you will get your turn to be a supporter of others, in your own way later, and it will give you great confidence.
For now, make sure you are getting treatment for your depression. There is no shame in medication and seeing a psychologist. Use lifeline if you need to, they want to help you. They don't want people to be in emotional pain.
Professional help and potentially medication, start with your GP. Good luck, you've got this xxx
I don't have an answer for you, but did want you to know that your not alone as I could have written this myself.