I've just found out I'm pregnant (super early, only 4 weeks) and have been to my doctor to have bloods taken to confirm my at home test. I have wanted another baby for a long time, I already have a 2.5 year old, but now the reality is here I know it's not the right time (please no judgement) so I am having to consider my options of termination.
Is anyone willing to share their experiences with the two termination options?
How did you get on with life and didn't live each day hating yourself?
Medical termination VS Surgical
Medical termination VS Surgical
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I would go surgical over medical. I had a medical one years ago and it was the worst. The pain was terrible. I was drenched in sweat, I projectile vomited and had diarrhoea. I ended up passing out from the pain.
I had a surgical one over a year ago. The clinics are professional and non judgmental. It was easy, quick and I felt fine once it was all over.
You need to do what's right for you. I really wanted another baby but when it happened, I knew I couldn't bring another child in to my terrible relationship. I think about what life would be like every now and then but I'm so glad I did what I did. It wasn't the right time but the right time wil come
Thank-you, I want a baby so badly - it's all I think about, but I know the timing is off, my relationship is on the rocks at the best of time and im not in the right head space. The right time will come, thank you for your words x
I'm worrried people will know if I've had the surgical option. I was hoping I'd be able to go alone so was leaning towards medical. My partner can't take time off work during December and I don't want anyone to know I'm doing it.....
I just had a medical abortion yesterday. I think everyones body reacts differently to it with the side affects and amount of blood loss. I had minor cramping that was easy eased by a hot pack and diarrhea for about 3 hours. Not heaps of blood mostly just clots when I went to the toilet. I was actually really worried before I had it about what to expect but like I said everyones body reacts differently. I had a surgical abortion 15 years ago and had no problems with that but just didn't feel i wanted to have one again. With a medical i could do it at home and didnt need someone to drive me to an appointment. Good luck. Its a horrible situation but you need to do what you feel is best. Hugs x
I would defently go surgical as that is what I have had, no more pain or bleeding then a normal period and many people I know have done medical and had a lot of pain bleeding and complications afterwards. In dealing with it afterwards I was miserable basically until I fell pregnant again 6 months later (planned as we both regretted the abortion) in saying that everybody else I know who has had one felt happy and relived afterwards. Best of luck with your decision xx
My husband and I have been trying 7 years
He tried committing suicide in October and subsequently has left his job while he seeks treatment.
We thanked god that theres no kids while we go through this and agreed to put all fertility treatments on hold until he feels ready.
A week or so after he tried this my period didn't arrive. I convinced myself it was the stress making me late. 2 weeks later and I gave in and tested.
Pregnant. Naturally. At the WOSRT possible time. E V E R!!
But I have to believe that the universe, god, fate or whoever it is out there has decided that now is the perfect time for us.
It's fucking tough. I'm crying a lot. We are both unemployed (he was the sole income earner), and the mental health side of everything is so scary. But it's definitely arriving in early July. Everything will be ok. We will make it so
Good luck!
Sorry I misread your question - mine doesn't really answer it at all
I have had 6 abortions in total. Sad story to the first 5 but the last one I had just had my son and he was 1.5yrs old. His dad and I were on the rocks and had our son most of the time due to severe PND and I remember crying saying 'what are we meant to do! You have him and I have this baby? They can't be separated and I can't give them both up!' I had another abortion. Move forward 4years later and we have just had our daughter who is 3 weeks old. i don't regret the decision because it was the right thing to do for us and our son at the time. We were comfortable in the decision so there are no regrets and to this day still no regrets. If you know this is right for you and your family then you will be fine with your choice. As for procedures I personally found surgical easier for me as medical was a reminder of what I was doing while I miscarried. Surgical was over very quickly and I didn't have to see it happening over the days. Goodluck
I've had 2 surgical termination procedures... Both were quick and easy to deal with physically... I don't hate myself because it was the right choice for me... If it's not the right choice, don't do it... If it is, don't hate yourself... Good luck with whatever decision you make, either way it won't be easy... Forgive yourself...
I just went through a medical. Pretty horrible but was very sure of my decision and feel a great sense of relief. I was on the pill as we had decided long ago to not have any more due to severe PND and sleep issues with our first. This is your decision, no one else's. Don't let other people's views sway your choice. But I will say don't wait until the right time.... there isn't one.
when i fell pregnant unexpectedly with my second. my first was only 1 year old. my husband and i contemplated a termination as we thought it was too soon to have a second. i cryed for 3 days thinking about the decision and after a phone call to the clinic decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. not a day goes by that i dont regret having pur beautiful baby boy.
i then fell pregnant again when he was only 5 months old. this time i had no doubts about having a termination. there was no hesitation. there was no second thoughts. i had a surgical procedure. everything went fine. no huge after pains that i remember. i have had a friend who took home a pill and she said it was the most horrific experience of her life.
all i want to say is if u have any doubts at all about a termination please keep bub.