Ladies my 5 year old does not respond to any type of punishment. He can either be the sweetest nicest kid or a terror. Currently he is banned from the iPad for a week. Early bed for a week. Had his Lego confiscated for a week... he just doesn't care. I put him in time out in his room (there are no toys in there) he will literally just sit in there for 20 mins then come out like nothing has happened and repeat the same behaviour. I explain why he is in trouble and remind him to think about his actions next time.
He annoys the other kids, walks past and will randomly kick or hit them, he sooks over absolutely everything. Can't go outside in the middle of the day cause I say it's too hot - sooks and asks repeatedly to go outside. Don't have any weetbix left sooks. It's not a major meltdown but more of a mini one but This happens atleast 30 times a day. It's exhausting and frustrating.
He is loving and affectionate towards me loves his kisses and cuddles. He isn't a terror all the time and can play nicely with his siblings when he wants to.
He has just finished prep and did well in school, teachers said he was a pleasure to teach and he never was in trouble at school.
What can I do to get through to him??
The others misbehave and have little sooks here and there but nothing compared to 5 year old. (3 siblings all younger & he gets plenty of attention from both parents)
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Honestly what you've described doesn't sound like a problem child. He sounds like a pretty typical child. Just ignore him when he sooks. It kind of sounds like he knows how to get under your skin.
Don't you complain when or make a comment when you run out of a favourite food, or something you were looking forward to? I certainly do, I don't cry, but I'm 44, but you get my point. If he isn't chucking a tantrum, why does it deserve a punishment? We are all entitled to vocalise our opinions.
The kicking his siblings sounds like normal sibling rivalry to me. Honestly the punishments sound quite big and over the top for very normal behaviour.
Find his currency, what he loves more than everything else. Ipad isn't it, bedtime isn't it, lego isn't it. Keep looking.
This is my 5 year old and she drives me insane most of the time and wears her heart on her leave the other half of the time - but I wouldn't change her for the world. I love that she has a strong personality, I love that she knows exactly what she wants, when she wants it becomes a problem sometimes but I try and reason with her. I also think these are all great qualities.. All I can suggest is just try and accept this side of your child's personality and stop fighting against it. In saying this I took artificial colours and flavours out of her diet which helped bring it back to a tolerable level.
A friend cut out dairy and sugar for a week and that helped a great deal with her son, you could see if that makes a difference.. good luck I know how frustrating it can be..