Hi everyone, so this may seem like a basic parenting worry but this situation is new to me and I'm not sure what to do!
When my first child was born we met a great mother / daughter through mothers group. My son and her daughter have grown up together so far (they're now 5) and me and the mum have become great friends.
This year they were in the same kinder class, the daughter is quite shy and my son is very outgoing and friendly, up until now the little girl has hung off my son, he has supported her and been her safety net but at the same time has tried to make other friends as well.
The little girl has finally met another little girl who she has gotten along really well with, which I think is great! But she has now turned quite nasty towards my son. She talks to him so rudely now, like he's an idiot, and constantly tells her new friend to tell my son she doesn't want to play with him anymore. I have said once to her mum what has been happening, she was quite upset and spoke to her daughter about it but it seems to be ongoing. My son is now feeling sad and thinks he has no friends and that no one wants to play with him, which breaks my heart! We see the family outside of kinder (our younger children also all play together) but now we have noticed our older ones have started fighting. I also think it's end of year tiredness, and they need a break from each other. Issue with this is, they are going to a wedding next weekend and we had arranged for the little girl to stay with us. I'm worried that this will push their friendship too far when it's already a bit fragile, we don't really do sleepovers as me and my hubby feel they're a bit young but we are doing it as a favour. I am thinking about asking her to find someone else for her to stay with, as I think it will impact on the friendship I have with the mum too! Any positive advice would be much appreciated, I know there will be worse of this to come but I'm feeling a bit lost. They are also going to the same school and in the same class next year
Friendship woes in kindergarten
Friendship woes in kindergarten
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I would speak to the school and ask if it's too late for them to be separated next year. Plenty of schools accomodate these kinds of requests because the classroom runs smoother without these clashes!
If you know some other kids from school start organising play dates for January with those to give him a confidence boost.
I'd probably keep the baby sitting duties as it's probably too late for them to find someone else now, but supervise the hell out of it! Keep them busy with activities. Plan ahead, with Xmas baking, a movie to watch on TV.
I would welcome her to stay and get to the bottom of it. You have her there without her parents and when she does anything rude or untoward, you can have it out with her. I don't mean yell at her, but have a stern talking to her about her actions and tell her you will be watching how she behaves next year and not to try it on at school. Perfect opportunity, this is a blessing I say!