Hi there. I have a 4 year old that wants to sleep with me constantly. I have been separated with her father for 3 and a half years. I honestly dont mind her sharing my bed. My question is mums.. could this be a bad thing as she grows up as she will always want someone by her side while she sleeps? Ive always taught her to be independent but when it comes to co sleeping im happy to have her snuggle with me. Please help.
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It's only a problem if it's a problem for you.
I have a rule in my house, that my bed is MY bed. So no co-sleeping.
I enjoy my space. Bed is the only place that's truly mine.
I miss having my own space in bed she did sleep through a few times in her bed. She goes to bed in hers and than comes into my bed.
I wouldn't change it for the world! If she needs that security than I'll always allow her to snuggle in. Also separated for 2 years. She has no nights away so I don't have to worry about her fretting at night not being able to come into me.
They are only small once and while she needs me and wants to snuggle I'm all for it. There will come a time where she's too cool or big for that and will no longer want to come in anymore.
Do whatever is best for you ? Your child will be just fine.
My now 4 year old co slept when he was younger but could always be settled back into his bed and still comes in now but only after a bad dream. My now almost 3 year old co slept at times too but has been coming into my bed almost every night for the past month and it's not an issue in my house.
Growing up I went to sleep in my own bed and most nights would end up in bed with my mum. Up until about 14. I never grew up with any personal or issues at home, I just liked my mum next to me so I felt safe (I was scared of ghosts & the odd mouse or possum in the roof lol). I'm now 26 and haven't experienced any issues of not having someone next to me each night, I had a partner that worked away a lot and the weeks he wasn't at home I was fine in bed on my own. I am now on my own with 2 little boys and love my nights where I get the bed to myself.
I think it really depends on the child but I never experienced any issues and my 4 year old seems to be fine sleeping on his own too after co sleeping in the younger years.